Everything will be ok. Your are in God's hands keep up the good work. Is Matt going back to school? Or does he just prefer Michigan? Just being nosey. -- Can you imagine what a scarcity of news there would be If everybody obeyed > the Ten Commandments? I would rather live my life as if there is a God, and die to find out there isn't, than live my life as if there isn't, and die to find out there is IN GOD WE TRUST Karen Carter '74 -KC- Ministries -------------- Original message -------------- From: Kathy Du Bois <[log in to unmask]> > Hi guys, > Well, I'm headed to Portland today for a honey moon with my > sweety. It's nine hours and counting. I can't > wait. Unfortunately, The situation is a bit concerning because Matt > had a small car accident last night and we're kind of leaving him to > have to work things out. I have little clue what to do and Greg has > to give directions by phone so this will definitely be a maturing > experience for Matt, to say the least. Matt is fine. The car > appears to have sustained only front end damage. Who knows what this > will do to our car insurance. Greg has called a member of the > congregation to go with Matt to look at the car and decide what to do > from there. Right now, it is in the parking lot where Matt > works. He feels aweful, but like I told him, I'm just glad he's > okay. He's irreplaceable. > What I'm really praising God for is how well both Greg and I stayed > calm through the whole thing and got our priorities correct in > putting our son's life above the car. I think that, earlier, we > would have been a little more judgmental, but having gone through > what we have been through with Chris has really helped us to see more > clearly what is important and what is unimportant. > By the way, I had a nice long talk with Chris again this week. He > is really itching to get together with us, but I had to put him off > because of scheduling and so forth. This was good because he sees > very clearly that we are treating him as an adult and not just > clinging to him and connecting with him on his terms. He did go down > and take is pre-test for preparing for his G.E.D. studies. He's > wishing that he could get out of his relationship with Nicki, but he > is afraid that she will kill herself if he breaks it off. He is > feeling resigned to his fate of having to marry her because they've > had sex, and I was able to talk with him about God's forgiveness and > Grace and how God is the God of second chances. I talked about him > taking the time to find himself and do some deep soul searching and > he was kind of shocked. He asked me if I had been talking to his > last therapist. I assured him that I had not, but he was amazed > that, without collusion, we had both been saying the same things. He > seems to be really thinking now. I think that he is regreting some > of his choices. He said that if it hadn't been for Nicki, he'd > probably still be home and in school and driving and more on > track. This helped confirm for me, however, a decision that Greg and > I had already made that we will probably not let him come home, even > if he asks. At a distance, Chris treats us with respect, and we do > better at keeping our opinions to ourselves. It is very hard not to > slip back into the parent child relationship when an adult child > moves back home for a season. We've seen that in our relationship > with Matt. Old patterns are very hard to break. While I'll miss > Matt, I'm glad that he's moving back to Michigan this June. It is > good for both boys to continue to strive for independence and adulthood. > Well guys, I'm off for a wonderful weekend. Please just pray for > safety for all of us. > God's peace to you all! > Kathy >