Everything will be ok.  Your are in God's hands keep up the good work.  Is Matt going back to school? Or does he just prefer Michigan?  Just being nosey.

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Can you imagine what a scarcity of news there would be If everybody obeyed 
> the Ten Commandments? 

I would rather live my life as if there is a God, and die to find out there isn't, than live my life as if there isn't, and die to find out there is 

IN GOD WE TRUST 
Karen Carter '74 
-KC- Ministries 


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From: Kathy Du Bois <[log in to unmask]> 

> Hi guys, 
> Well, I'm headed to Portland today for a honey moon with my 
> sweety. It's nine hours and counting. I can't 
> wait. Unfortunately, The situation is a bit concerning because Matt 
> had a small car accident last night and we're kind of leaving him to 
> have to work things out. I have little clue what to do and Greg has 
> to give directions by phone so this will definitely be a maturing 
> experience for Matt, to say the least. Matt is fine. The car 
> appears to have sustained only front end damage. Who knows what this 
> will do to our car insurance. Greg has called a member of the 
> congregation to go with Matt to look at the car and decide what to do 
> from there. Right now, it is in the parking lot where Matt 
> works. He feels aweful, but like I told him, I'm just glad he's 
> okay. He's irreplaceable. 
> What I'm really praising God for is how well both Greg and I stayed 
> calm through the whole thing and got our priorities correct in 
> putting our son's life above the car. I think that, earlier, we 
> would have been a little more judgmental, but having gone through 
> what we have been through with Chris has really helped us to see more 
> clearly what is important and what is unimportant. 
> By the way, I had a nice long talk with Chris again this week. He 
> is really itching to get together with us, but I had to put him off 
> because of scheduling and so forth. This was good because he sees 
> very clearly that we are treating him as an adult and not just 
> clinging to him and connecting with him on his terms. He did go down 
> and take is pre-test for preparing for his G.E.D. studies. He's 
> wishing that he could get out of his relationship with Nicki, but he 
> is afraid that she will kill herself if he breaks it off. He is 
> feeling resigned to his fate of having to marry her because they've 
> had sex, and I was able to talk with him about God's forgiveness and 
> Grace and how God is the God of second chances. I talked about him 
> taking the time to find himself and do some deep soul searching and 
> he was kind of shocked. He asked me if I had been talking to his 
> last therapist. I assured him that I had not, but he was amazed 
> that, without collusion, we had both been saying the same things. He 
> seems to be really thinking now. I think that he is regreting some 
> of his choices. He said that if it hadn't been for Nicki, he'd 
> probably still be home and in school and driving and more on 
> track. This helped confirm for me, however, a decision that Greg and 
> I had already made that we will probably not let him come home, even 
> if he asks. At a distance, Chris treats us with respect, and we do 
> better at keeping our opinions to ourselves. It is very hard not to 
> slip back into the parent child relationship when an adult child 
> moves back home for a season. We've seen that in our relationship 
> with Matt. Old patterns are very hard to break. While I'll miss 
> Matt, I'm glad that he's moving back to Michigan this June. It is 
> good for both boys to continue to strive for independence and adulthood. 
> Well guys, I'm off for a wonderful weekend. Please just pray for 
> safety for all of us. 
> God's peace to you all! 
> Kathy 
>