In a message dated 1/3/2006 9:34:45 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, [log in to unmask] writes:
pinhead masons, stonecarvers, and peanut gallery occupiers, here's your
opportunity to offer advice, and/or shameless commerce referrals...

I have need of information about purchasing a custom headstone, which I
  have not had the need to do before, and so don't know where to start,
other than knowing we don't want a traditional headstone...

should we just go to the local gravestone supplier to save shipping or
whatever, or is there someone among us who does this sort of work?

deb
Check with your Place of Permanent Repose.  About 15 years ago, I thought I was going to be designing one for a friend of mine (died in his sleep at 44, with 3 little adopted kids) when it turned out PPR had very strict limitations on stone type, color, size and shape.  It deprived me of a design project, but undoubtedly saved the family a good deal.
 
Keep It Simple, Stupid.
 
Ralph