In a message dated 9/11/2005 4:54:57 P.M. Eastern Standard Time, [log in to unmask] writes: That's a rather personal question, don't you think? And a visual I'd prefer not to have, thank you very much. Certainly it's a personal question. But if one can't ask personal questions of one's friends, of whom can one ask them? Especially if nobody else ever has to see them, and the questionee can lie (or tell the truth) with impunity. Ralph