Helen, I suppose that you are right. Sometimes when we type something we can't controll how it is received by the reader. When I read it, I heard frustration. When you read it, you heard judgement. As hard as we all try, we do take a risk when we post. I'm just trying to give the benefit of the doubt to everybody. I think that we are all concerned and have a sense of powerlessness in this situation. Even your post to chris, which I thought was very loving, was obviously received with hostility. I think that you would probably agree that Paul does care and he too is trying to help and that's what I chose to see in his post. I pretty much ignored the first part altogether and took the message as a whole. that is what helps me anyway. God's peace, Kathy ________________________________________________________________ The best thing to hit the internet in years - Juno SpeedBand! Surf the web up to FIVE TIMES FASTER! Only $14.95/ month - visit www.juno.com to sign up today!