> > >lettuce Vasser tells him that their policy is if the student does not want his or >her parents seeing their grades the University won't send them to them(the >parents). > I never once saw a grade for SON at college. Even if SON wanted us to see grades school would not send them. This we were told during one hour of 'parent' indoctrination and they were true to their word. Though SON received grades he would register them in his head then lose them... we don't count, and we never encouraged him to count, grades as significant as long as they were not failing. He was sent to school to get tools & how to use them, not grades. The one time when SON was in grade school I saw grades I got pissed that SON's teacher had failed him in math because SON forgot to sign homework. SON did the homework and turned it in, simply SON did not remember to sign it. My argument was if stupid ass teacher could not tell SON's handwriting then she must be incompetent (count number of students who do not sign homework)... are they teaching math or what? Did SON understand the math? If SON did not understand the math it was one thing, if SON was psychologically disposed to forget name it was another. So I raised a rucus and, as SON informed me last night (or very early this morning), I got the teacher fired (I did not know this until last night), got SON's science teacher in hot water as well... and more-or-less screwed up SON's grade school experience by having teachers afraid and pissed at SON for what I had done. The teachers were on this kick that not simply were they supposed to teach their subjects, but they were to somehow prepare the kids for a bigger world... in my opinion the 'bigger world' was my responsibility and not theirs. When science teacher said that SON needed to learn to be more organized if SON was to survive my comment was that SON would be well prepared for understanding chaos theory. The teacher never smiled and right there I regreted that we sent SON to be taught by incompetent people. Then again, it is not the quality of the world that we need to control, it is controlling ourselves in what we can do to assist SON/DAUGHTER in meeting an unqualified and chaotic world. So, I suppose, be grateful for what you get and hope that you do not screw up too much. ][<en -- To terminate puerile preservation prattling among pals and the uncoffee-ed, or to change your settings, go to: <http://maelstrom.stjohns.edu/archives/bullamanka-pinheads.html>