if something happerned to judy, i'd stay single now. i love her dearly and would not ever want another. -----Original Message----- From: Trisha Cummings [mailto:[log in to unmask]] Sent: Monday, June 03, 2002 11:43 AM To: [log in to unmask] Subject: Re: current events Hi Ken, Glad you have a great Mom for him. I haven't remarried. I have no plans to. Trisha > i would guess that all the states have a formula. i know alabama has an > amount and it is figured on the % of total income of both pasrents what is > actually paid. the one that makes more pays more of the expense. although > nenjamin stayed with me, i got nothing from his mom even though i could > have. i am happy to have raised my child. he don't even remember her. > judy > is mom. > > > I wasn't commenting on that - the child support portion was what I was > commenting on - and the states involvement in the amount - depending on > the > amount of the child support and the years he paid it and the amount of > college donation - he could be paying the same amount both ways. Would he > have paid more or less if it was voluntary? The state the amount - don't > know how - Virginia has 600 limit and that is divided between the two > incomes - by the percentage you put in. He will have paid - $36,000 in > child support ( over 12 years) and he has no intention of helping with > college or helping buy a car. In the mean time - I have put out - $65,000, > and that doesn't count - the cost of her medical care - like insurance - > which I carry and the co-pays and left over balances, nor the up and > coming > college amount of ?????? - nor the $15,000 for new car. I truly don't > begudge him his money - okay so he has new Honda motorcycle and a new car > and new digital camera nad computer and other stuff - I do begudge him the > extra time I am away from Amber - so we can live. He spends no time with > Amber, never calls her and until recently spazed out with the child > support > - the kid had no money and lost mom time. The kids want me home. When > Jackie > was living there - she waitress part-time and gave me money so I could > stay > home with them. The kids need us and our presence, and child support can > help with that. We only have kids for such a short time, shouldn't at > least > be with them then? > > Trisha > > > > i think kyle has already said he intends to continue with money for > > college > > voluntarily. > > > > -----Original Message----- > > From: Trisha Cummings [mailto:[log in to unmask]] > > Sent: Monday, June 03, 2002 10:53 AM > > To: [log in to unmask] > > Subject: Re: current events > > > > > > I don't see what the difference is - one should voluntarily pay for one > > kids > > - you do for the ones that live with - infact if you consider how much > the > > cost per month - child support usually looks piddly next it - I get $250 > a > > month Amber, and put out at least $700. I get nothing for Alex and put > out > > the same amount. I arrive at this by dividing the house, utilities and > > food > > by three - then adding individual costs. Imagine the mess I would be in > if > > I > > didn't work 3 jobs. And this says nothing about the time spent running > > them > > around and vacations etc. Why does it matter that the state set limit? > If > > you checked out the number kids who never get child support like Alex, > > perhaps you would understand the necessity for state set limits. The sad > > truth is many people value money over people. Hate your ex-wife by all > > means > > but don't begrudge you child your support - finanacially or emotionally. > > It > > is not the child fault. > > > > Trisha > > > > > > > Biggest raise I've ever had in my life, but college starts this fall > > > <sigh>. > > > Oh well, at least it's Dad's decision to open his wallst, and not the > > > State > > > doing it for him! > > > > > > -----Original Message----- > > > From: BG Greer, PhD [mailto:[log in to unmask]] > > > Sent: Monday, June 03, 2002 10:19 AM > > > To: [log in to unmask] > > > Subject: Re: current events > > > > > > > > > In a message dated 6/3/02 8:13:33 AM, [log in to unmask] writes: > > > > > > >eh, congratsa kyle... > > > > > > Me too, Kyle. Now you, Laura and the kids will have more "cheese" to > go > > > around. > > > > > > Bobby