> ALONE IN NATURE, MAN CLEARS; and I did beautifully. i wonder, when my ex partner left me, to be able to find myself again, i did a 3 months trip skiing in the rockies .It felt good to have only the clears boundaries of nature as a partner. I knew where i standed. at the time i made the decision to not deal with women anymore but the experience openned myself so much that i ended up metting my present wife. Now i rediscoverd myself in front of the same strugles than before even if it is at a different level ( i improved ). so no matter what we do , we end up facing ourselves anyway. but may be if i had continued as a lone mountain man i might be fine but the fact is i could not .i needed to face this part of my self that i project on the other in a codependant relationship so i can reconcilied myself heal and feel whole again. The goal might not be to avoid special relationship but to transform them on sacred relationship. not related but i am wondering if you eat your dairies unpasteurised and if thy come from non commercial source.? jean-claude