Lucia,

> my husband has never done all raw. I make sure he gets more raw than
> cooked as much as I can. When I met him he did not eat salad. he was
> living on mostly peanut butter, nuts, raisins, french fries and coffee.
> right.  We went through a detox program together two years ago and we gave
> up the coffee, meat, sugar, and dairy. Then I started in with the raw.

So are you both still eating vegetarian?

>  He
> craves fried food. He knows french fries are bad, but he still has sauteed
> tempeh in olive oil with fruit, for breakfast. He cmae up with this by
> himself and makes it for himself.

Has he tried sauteeing with coconut oil? From what I've read this is
the
only totally stable at high-temperature natural fat. It is available
from
Omega nutrition. http://www.omegaflo.com/

> I do think he is finally beginning to
> like salad after living with me the past 4 years but it has been painful
> going at times. His office mate can't understand how he can eat what he
> brings to work for lunch. I prepare these Walker type salads of raw
> fruits/veggies and soaked nuts and raisins for him to take to work. And we
> make chile and he has some of that everyday. He has a blood sugar problem
> and does better with some cooked beans or lentils every day. He used to
> have rice but was feeling sluggish from it and quit.

Has he tried buckwheat or kasha? I haven't had it lately but I find it
agreeable; if I had to eat vegetarian I would probably be eating quite
a bit
of it since it is quite filling.

> > I wonder
> > how the food situation will play out with me if I get into a serious
> > relationship. I think if I ever have kids my partner would have to share
> > most of my beliefs (at least on things like vaccinations and
> > Halloween) or it just wouldn't work.
>
> what are you beliefs about halloween? are you referring to the candy
> gathering or something else? My mother used to buy the candy off of us.
>

Really just the candy, although the rest of it might make me uneasy. I
got
sick one day a week every week of my childhood with splitting
headaches and
vomiting, and I'm sure now it was just my body detoxing all the candy,
soda
pop, etc. Then after college I fell into a depression, and my mom, not
knowing any better, would go to the store to buy me 'treats' to feel
better - that almost literally killed me but I had no idea. There are
millions of kids who endure the same or worse on the modern diet. So I
guess
all that has an effect on my thinking.

> As a mother, I would expect to have complete say over my children's diet
> in the early years, thereby setting good habits and tastes for healthy
> food that provides a basis for later in life. And I expect my husband will
> back me up.

I hope he would.

Paul