Save up your pennies and tell your husband that it would give you great
peace of mind and possibly, further harmony in the house if you knew for
certain that there was a problem.  Then get the test done.

I am assuming that you have ruled out a lactose intolerance at this point.
That would not test positive on a prick test.  (is there a test for lactose
intolerance?)

Are you avoiding milk now?  It is easily done once you know what to cut out
and substitute.  Let me know if you want advice there.  I actually find it
easier in Canada than when we were in the US to be dairy free.  But, in
either country, a dairy-free margarine is hard to find and you will be
limited to a select few brands (many members here can tell you which ones
they prefer).

Support from the family, even when there's ample evidence of an allergy, can
be slow in coming.  But, after six years, I have now "trained" (LOL!) both
sets of grandparents and my in-laws, who we see often, now go out of their
way to make sure that food they prepare is safe or advise us if it isn't
(mashed potatoes made with coconut milk, very yummy!).  Until you get the
support, keep bringing your own food to family events.

I have met a child so severely allergic to milk that, yes, he had to avoid
beef and even products containing gelatin were suspect as you don't know
what kind of bones they used to make the gelatin (you can use beef, pork or
fish to make gelatin).  They were big on pork.  This is rare, from my
understanding.

Good luck and hang in there.

On Mon, Oct 13, 2008 at 12:31 PM, Megan <[log in to unmask]> wrote:

> New to the group, hoping to find a place where everyone doesn't think I'm
> crazy. My 4 year old son and 1.5 year old daughter have UNDIAGNOSED dairy
> allergy. When my son was almost 2, he had the skin[prick test, which was,
> of
> course, negative. But I know, whatever the doctors say, that dairy causes
> all
> kinds of problems for him. His reactions are delayed, not life-threatening
> or
> immediate, and I have heard that for this type the skin test is of no use.
> I
> know there is a blood test, but our insurance doesn't cover it and it would
> take a lot to convince my husband to do it. Any suggestions? I want a
> definitive answer, especially for more support in family. Unfortunately,
> the
> medical community has thus far not helped, telling me he has no allergy or
> that if I just continue to give him dairy he will grow out of it.  Also,
> lately I am
> wondering if i should cut out beef, too, and of course everyone thinks I am
> crazier than before. Please help!!
>