Julie,
Actually alot of times my Dad understands more than my Mom. The other
day she even made me take a bath before she left when I was going to take it
after she left. I don't get it, what can happen when I'm in the bath tub?
I am trying to be as independant as I can and she stops me alot of times and
yes, sometimes I need help but I would rather her ask than do things for me.
I am trying so hard to keep my cool, but it's fustrating when you can't tell
her how you really feel or she will say, I just wont help you at all but
that isn't true. She does the same things again. She gets so agrivated
because I tell her how I feel. I don't tell her rudely or anything. Now,
my Dad is over protective but he alot of times will listen to me. A good
example is when I could see and I couldn't find something in my closet, she
got so mad and stomped up the stairs and said, It was right here. So, after
that happening a few times it made me afraid to ask for help from her and I
would ask my Dad and he wouldn't complain a bit. Sorry for telling you
alll, all of this but I just don't know how to handle it. I have talked to
a few people about it but so far it's not any better. It's like when I was
gone to the Department for the Blind she was much better when I came home on
weekends but now that I'm home it's going back to the way it used to be. I
think she just don't want to let go. I had alot of problems when I was
little and was always by her side and she don't want that to change I think.
Sorry for babbling on, thanks for listening though.
Amy
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From: JULIE MELTON <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Thursday, October 28, 2004 10:01 PM
Subject: Re: Pray for me.
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> Amy,
>
> Sorry I didn't find your message right away, but it was in my junk =
> mailbox, as some echurch messages end up being. This is no reflection =
> on Echurch, though, LOL.
>
> Yes, I had overprotective parents. Mom was afraid to let me cook or =
> even to walk much of anywhere in town. I would have mobility lessons =
> but then be unable to practice what I was learning. It was frustrating. =
> However, when I went to college and showed Mom that I could do things =
> on my own, she accepted it pretty well for the most part. My dad =
> didn't, but dads are a different story.
>
> I also saw a little of what Cecily did in that my Mom wanted me to learn =
> things but didn't want to be the teacher. She felt she wasn't' expert =
> enough to teach me. To be fair, she didn't' have a lot of other =
> parents of blind kids to talk to where we lived.
>
> I will pray. Just learn to do all you can for yourself and then show =
> Mom what you've learned. She will come around. Also, ask for godly =
> counsel of friends, maybe even your pastor, on what God would have you =
> do with your life. Rehab counselors can also be helpful, but remember =
> that they are not necessarily senstive to what God would have you do. =
> They are also more likely to be ultraconservative in making career =
> recommendations because their main objective is to close the case. I'm =
> not trying to put them down, though. THey do a lot of good in helping =
> with college, job trainign, etc.
>
> Hope some of this helps, or even makes sense.
>
> Julie=20
> ----- Original Message -----=20
> From: Amy Gordon<mailto:[log in to unmask]>=20
> To: =
> [log in to unmask]<mailto:[log in to unmask]
> U>=20
> Sent: Thursday, October 28, 2004 5:01 AM
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> Hello everyone,
> I am trying to decide what I want to do with my life as you all =
> know =3D
> as far as school or a job. I have put in a couple of applications and =
> =3D
> haven't heard anything. I know that there is not much of an =
> opportunity =3D
> for a blind person where I live to go to college or have a job, but I =
> =3D
> don't want to move to a big city. I will if I have too but if at all =
> =3D
> possible I don't want to. I don't want to live by myself. I guess I =
> =3D
> could get used to it, but I just can't imagine being alone right now. =
> =3D
> My Mom said that me and her might have to move to the city but I don't =
> =3D
> want her to leave our family. She said she's not ready for me to =
> leave. =3D
> I sometimes get the feeling that I can't do anything according to =
> her. =3D
> Did any of you have trouble with your parents understanding that you =
> can =3D
> do things and you['ll be okay? I know I am afraid to be alone for a =
> =3D
> long period of time. I'm afraid of being by myself. At the same time =
> I =3D
> want to be independant. It's so hard. Thanks for listening.
>
> Amy
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> <DIV>Amy,</DIV>
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> <DIV>Sorry I didn't find your message right away, but it was in my junk =
> mailbox,=20
> as some echurch messages end up being. This is no reflection on =
> Echurch,=20
> though, LOL.</DIV>
> <DIV> </DIV>
> <DIV>Yes, I had overprotective parents. Mom was afraid to let me =
> cook or=20
> even to walk much of anywhere in town. I would have mobility =
> lessons but=20
> then be unable to practice what I was learning. It was =
> frustrating. =20
> However, when I went to college and showed Mom that I could do things on =
> my own,=20
> she accepted it pretty well for the most part. My dad didn't, but =
> dads are=20
> a different story.</DIV>
> <DIV> </DIV>
> <DIV>I also saw a little of what Cecily did in that my Mom wanted me to =
> learn=20
> things but didn't want to be the teacher. She felt she wasn=92t' =
> expert=20
> enough to teach me. To be fair, she didn=92t' have a lot of =
> other=20
> parents of blind kids to talk to where we lived.</DIV>
> <DIV> </DIV>
> <DIV>I will pray. Just learn to do all you can for yourself and =
> then show=20
> Mom what you've learned. She will come around. Also, ask for =
> godly=20
> counsel of friends, maybe even your pastor, on what God would have you =
> do with=20
> your life. Rehab counselors can also be helpful, but remember that =
> they=20
> are not necessarily senstive to what God would have you do. They =
> are also=20
> more likely to be ultraconservative in making career recommendations =
> because=20
> their main objective is to close the case. I'm not trying to put =
> them=20
> down, though. THey do a lot of good in helping with college, job =
> trainign,=20
> etc.</DIV>
> <DIV> </DIV>
> <DIV>Hope some of this helps, or even makes sense.</DIV>
> <DIV> </DIV>
> <DIV>Julie </DIV>
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