I am sorry, I really never talked to anyone, I did leave a message, but
never heard back! I just feel sooo awful, I can't do anything,  if I were to
call 911 Ben could refuse treatment,  he has the right to do that! I do
think he needs to see someone, but what can I do?  People were saying "If I
were You" and I just felt so awful, caught between  well, wanting Ben to go
get some medical attention and  not knowing how to get him to do that! 
I just feel so  worried, what can I do?  I realize he needs attention,
swelling in itself means his kidneys aren't working,  but what do I do?  I
guess I just felt  as though you guys would think I was an awful person if I
didn't call, or somehow get Ben to go! 
Rhonda