Hey Keith this makes perfect sense my friend and thanks you have made me
think


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From: "Keith P Hodges" <[log in to unmask]>
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Sent: Sunday, August 15, 2004 2:00 PM
Subject: Re: I really need some prayer


> >Guys, I really need some prayer, bigtime.  I'm on the verge of really
> >telling Kristin's mom off bigtime.  For the past two days, all she's done
is
> be nothing but totally rude to me.
>
> that is a shame
>
> >sooner, and... excuse? excuse? excuse!  Why can't they take
responsibility
> >for their own damned problems!  Parden the language, but I'm irate!  Her
mom
>
> agreed
>
> >a teeny bit angry at Kristin, as she knew she had limited minutes, but
> >apparently, she didn't care.  Her and I really need to talk, but on her
> >level of sinsitivity, I don't want to make myself look like I'm talking
down
>
> ... snip...
> >running late, the least they could have done is call and let me know, for
> >Christ's sake!
>
> yes they could
>
>
> >Just... just.. please pray, that's all I'll ask at this point.
> >
> >Chris.
>
> Dear Chris,
>
> I hope that things have calmed down now...
>
> Kristin's mum sounds like I used to be; as in really inconsiderate of
> others, especially when it comes to being late or missing
> appointments and nothing was ever my fault. It has taken a lot of
> work for God to get me to change and I am still a work in progress.
> The pattern of shifting blame and never accepting responsibility is
> something else I have had to overcome in my own life.
>
> When things do not go according to my plans I always ask the lord "ok
> then what is plan A then?" (my plan must have been plan B).
>
> These things do stress us out, and perhaps we should be able to
> handle them more calmly but that does not make them right.
> Nevertheless examine your heart look at all the anger and frustration
> that came out. Might I encourage you to pray  and ask the Lord,
> "where did that lot come from?"
>
> If you ask the Lord to show you where all these emotions came from
> and how to get your heart healed and restored and to help you to
> understand how to be more like him in that situation. Then you will
> find that perhaps Kirstens mum has done you a favour helping you in
> your healing journey with the Lord!
>
> Sometimes I am not a very emotional person. I need a situation to
> really stir me up and upset me in order to know that I need healing
> in my own heart. God wants us to be healed and strengthened, the bad
> news is that he uses difficult relationships and situations to bring
> us to that point of desperation and to work changes in us! It kind of
> like a hammer working on an anvil.
>
> The well known minister (UK) Graham Cooke refers to such a person as
> a "grace grower". Someone difficult the Lord allows to cross our
> path, to teach us how grow in grace through difficult experiences. It
> looks like you have found yours.
>
> Even better (yippee English sarcasm) he will use your soul mate, the
> ones that are closest to your heart to do the deepest digging, to
> reach to the hardest to reach places. The good news is that if you
> work through these things with the Lord you will benefit loads.
>
> I do hope that you can find help in some of what I have said
>
> your friend and servant in Christ
>
> Keith
>
>