I have to say "amen & amen & amen" along with Vinny.

Phil, my heart goes out to you and Sandy and also to Gretchen.  I can 
imagine what conflict she is experiencing and old Satan is having a holiday 
with this on. I agree with Kathy that no one can accuse you two of being 
impatient with Gretchen and Gretchen will never find anyone who would be 
more forgiving of loving toward her.  May God have His way with Gretchen and 
in you and Sandy.  May He be glorified in you all.

Ned