Kathy,

I think I might have called that evening a "Roller-Coaster".  My heart goes 
out and my prayers are for you all.  "Be strong in the Lord and in the power 
of His might".

In His love:

--
Carol
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----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Kathy Du Bois" <[log in to unmask]>
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Sent: Thursday, August 03, 2006 3:50 PM
Subject: my interesting evening


> Well, I certainly had an interesting evening yesterday.  We still don't 
> have our car back, but Greg was able to get a ride from one of our church 
> members and he went to the courthouse to see what he could find out about 
> Chris.  Imagine the surprise when it was learned that he had been released 
> on personal recognizance  again.  This made no sense because he has no 
> money and drug dealing is a felony!
> Well, Greg called to let me know and, about an hour later, Chris called me 
> himself.  He wanted to know if he could come by to pick up a few things. 
> I told him that he would have to call back after I had had a chance to 
> talk it over with Greg.  We decided to let him come.  He walked from 
> Bangor, about seven miles because we couldn't have given him a ride 
> anyway.  He ended up walking through a down pour.  When he arrived, I had 
> him take a shower first because he stank.  Then, Greg and I did a lot of 
> praying about how to handle things. He ended up having to empty his 
> pockets because everything was soaking wet and we actually got to see the 
> court summons.  Guess what, the only reason that he was picked up was 
> because he didn't show up in court to face the charges about stealing his 
> x roommate's computer.  It had nothing to do with drugs.  Chris claims 
> that the scales and baggies belonged to Nicki's brother's friend.  I have 
> no idea why, after the police saw everything in Nicki's house, that 
> Nicki's parents claimed belong to Chris, that he wasn't charged with 
> anything to do with drugs.    WE have no clue what is going on.
> Chris stayed the night.  We let him sleep on the couch, but we didn't let 
> him use the computer.  He did use the phone, I tapped the call and, sure 
> enough, he called Nicki. I was ready to call the police, if he was working 
> out something illegal.    They are still thick, so that's another lie. 
> Evidently, Nicki's parents have put out a one year restraining order 
> against Chris so that wil make it a bit harder for the two to meet, but it 
> was quite obvious, from the conversation, that it isn't over between them, 
> despite what Chris led us to believe.
> Chris swears that    he hasn't been dealing drugs, but we told him that we 
> just don't know what the truth is.  We explained that he was allowed to 
> stay for the night because he is our son, not because he has repented.  We 
> talked a lot, in fact, about the prodigal son and how his attitude was 
> that of repentance  and wanting to change.  chris admitted that, despite 
> his homelessness, he's having too much fun partying to change so we just 
> told him flat out, that's why you can't move back home.  He asked if I 
> would still hold my ground if he were to apply for general assistance 
> again.  The general asistance office has a policy of calling the parents 
> of adults between the ages of 18--25 to see if there is anything the 
> family can do to help financially.  When they called last time, I told 
> them that Chris was more than welcome to move back home, if he were 
> willing to follow the rules.  I told Chris that I'd still say the same 
> again, so he probably won't bother applying.
> Now, Chris is oficially homeless.  Even the homeless shelter won't take 
> him in.  He left this morning.  We gave him an old bike that we may never 
> see again, but we don't care about it, so that's okay.  He was a bit 
> miffed that we didn't give him a better one, but we told him that he had 
> already lost two bikes, not to mention  everything else that he left with 
> nine months ago.  We stayed pretty firm and he respected it.
> Part of me is so angry that I could scream.  Part of me wants to grab him 
> and just shake him and part of me wants to be nice.  I will say this, I"m 
> glad that he left without incident. Last night, I must have sat up for 
> about a half hour, making sure that he was sleeping before I laid down 
> myself.   I'm so grateful to God that this part of my life is over and I 
> don't want to go back to it.
> Kathy