Yah you are not a bad person.  If you were you would not care what your husband did.  It sounds like you are a very good person and very concerned and it is understandable.  i would be stubburn call 911 and make him go.  

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Can you imagine what a scarcity of news there would be If everybody obeyed
> the Ten Commandments?

I would rather live my life as if there is a God, and die to find out there isn't, than live my life as if there isn't, and die to find out there is

IN GOD WE TRUST
Karen Carter  '74
-KC- Ministries


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From: VIRGIE UNDERWOOD <[log in to unmask]>
> Rhonda,
> We never meant for you to feel awful!  We all love you and we are concerned 
> for you and Ben.  I think he does need medical attention but you have done 
> your best to convince him to go and you are right you cannot make a person 
> go if they do not want to go.  Please accept my apology for making you feel 
> terrible.  I am praying!
> Virgie and Hoshi
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Rhonda Partain" <[log in to unmask]>
> To: <[log in to unmask]>
> Sent: Monday, April 10, 2006 9:52 PM
> Subject: apology
> 
> 
> >I am sorry, I really never talked to anyone, I did leave a message, but
> > never heard back! I just feel sooo awful, I can't do anything,  if I were 
> > to
> > call 911 Ben could refuse treatment,  he has the right to do that! I do
> > think he needs to see someone, but what can I do?  People were saying "If 
> > I
> > were You" and I just felt so awful, caught between  well, wanting Ben to 
> > go
> > get some medical attention and  not knowing how to get him to do that!
> > I just feel so  worried, what can I do?  I realize he needs attention,
> > swelling in itself means his kidneys aren't working,  but what do I do?  I
> > guess I just felt  as though you guys would think I was an awful person if 
> > I
> > didn't call, or somehow get Ben to go!
> > Rhonda