Rhonda,

That's the problem even if it is a Christian list.  You get a lot of free
advice for nothing, sort of speak, but we are all praying for you and Ben.
You are doing fine with the decisions you are making and you know more about
Ben than any of us.  No one thinks anything but good things about you and
everyone is definitely on your side.  I know you are scared and upset and so
would everyone else be on this list if we were in your situation but we are
on your side so just use us to help you with whatever you need help with but
don't let us make you feel bad because we do want to help if we can.

Phil.