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I received so many replies. The majority of you said to contact the hall
where the reception is going to be held and talk to the catering manager.
Explain that I am not looking for special treatment, just want to see if  anything
that they are serving will be fine for us to eat.  Some said offer  to pay  if
there are any extra costs for our meals (so the bride or groom  wouldn't get
the bill.) Some said to eat before I go, or eat afterwards. Others  said just
go don't bother the bride or groom or their parents and just see what  looks
ok to eat like salad fruit veggies. While others said to bring your own  food
in a metal tin with lid and ask for it to be warmed up in oven. I  could bring
my own food in a lovely gift bag so as not to draw attention.  I could bring
my food in a lunch box (they have lunch bags that  looks like  a purse.) Some
said to pack a cooler with food and leave in the car  and just go out and eat
something then go back to the reception.  As a  spoke to the hall manager she
told me she would contact the caterer and make her  aware of our needs.  She
also said she knew about the wheat and gluten free  diet, that her friend was
celiac.  I ask her if she knew of our support  group in town and she said yes,
my friend started it.  Of course I know  her.  What a small world.  She said
if she had any questions about any  food item she would have her come down and
check it out.  WOW it pays to  just peak up.
Thanks to everyone for your advice.   Oh and of course I'll  have to bring
our own cake.
          Melinda

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