Toddy

        Most of the texts on psychosocial adjustment to disabilities
published since 1980 have a section on Kubler-Ross or a derivative of the
"grieving process" model.

Bobby


>Bobby:
>
>I don’t recall when or how I learned of the Grieving Process and how it
>applies
>to
>disabilities.  One year the school where I worked experienced several deaths
>within a
>short period of time.  The staff had an in service on grief.  One of the
>speakers
>related the
>grieving process to several ordinary occurrences.  One example was having
>to stop
>for a
>red light when you’re in a hurry.  No sure I totally buy that concept but
>was/is
>interesting
>to ponder.
>
>BTW  I haven’t posted very often.  I first introduced myself as Charlotte.
>
>Bobby Greer wrote:
>
>> Toddy,
>>
>>         Very thoughtful and to me, it does tie the two threads together. I
>> lecture on the grieving process all the time, but I have not applied to
>> myself.
>> The fact of cycling through numerous times is interesting. Never thought
>> about  it.
>>
>> Bobby
>>
>> >>
>> >
>> >  Re: Depression and disability
>> >
>> >Hello everyone.
>> >I have been reading the recent posts with great interest.  Hope it=92s not
>> >too late
>> >for me to
>> >add my 2 cents.  A while back there was a thread regarding adults with
>>CP a=
>> nd
>> >parents of
>> >children with CP.  I wanted to jump in but was too chicken.  Maybe I can
>> >tie the
>> >two
>> >together.
>> >
>> >Are any of you familiar with the grieving progress?  As I understand it
>> >when we
>> >experience loss we go through a grieving process.  The stages are Denial &
>> >Isolation,
>> >Anger, Bargaining, Depression and finally Acceptance.  When a child is
>> >disabled,
>> >the
>> >parent goes through the grieving process.  Later the PWD will go
>>through th=
>> e
>> >process,
>> >probably several times at various ages.  It is possible for a person be
>> >get stuck
>> >for years or
>> >for a lifetime in any one of the stages.
>> >
>> >As an advocate for the disabled and as a special ed. paraprofessional I
>> >have come
>> >across
>> >PWDs and parents in all stages.  And it=92s not a one time deal, we cycle
>> >through
>> >again and
>> >again.  It can be briefly.  You catch a glimpse of your reflection and
>> >think =93that
>> >can=92t be
>> >me=94.  A major change or loss can send you through the cycle again Big
>> >Time.  It
>> >can take
>> >months or even years.
>> >
>> >This group has made me realize how very fortunate I have been.  I grew up=
>>  in a
>> >loving
>> >and accepting family.  My parents and grandparents did some remarkable
>> >things for
>> >me
>> >when I was little.  I=92ll save that for another time.
>> >
>> >I had a bout with depression when I hit fifty-something and noticed a
>>decid=
>> ed
>> >physical
>> >change.  Was getting slower, stiffer and feeling worn out.  I was
>> >convinced it was
>> >
>> >somehow related to aging CP but I could find little or no information.
>>On =
>> the
>> >bright side,
>> >I found this group.
>> >
>> >Toddy