Very eloquently said, Stephen.

My husband and I are very open people and already talk with Anthony and
his brother about CP... Anthony cannot always do what he wants to do or
what Bobby wants him to do... "because he has CP".  It is a reality in our
household as much as Teletubbies, diapers and Cheerios. They may not
understand the ramifications yet but we don't intend to hide things from
them. Bobby plays with Anthony's adapted toys and equipment. Our Little
Tykes school bus comes complete with a tiny red wheelchair and a ramp.
<smile> The children at pre-school know Anthony has CP and can't walk
on his own... but frankly, most don't care (some of the kids are very jealous
of his Pony walker,lol). Certainly not Ant's girlfriend who lights up like a
Christmas tree when he comes in the room.  :)  I only wish that everyone in
his life will be so accepting. <sigh>

We are still mourning the family we expected... 3 little people running
around underfoot. Sometimes the reality of loss is overwhelming but if we
don't deal with our own pain as parents, how can we help our children with
theirs later on? And real acceptance includes being able to share your
struggle to get there.

Yvonne
Mommy to 2 year-old triplets: Robert (NDA), Anthony (PVL, CP), and Our
Angel, Joseph {April 14/97-Dec. 31/98}. Ottawa, Canada