if you are not actually the parent here, trish, i
think you need to rethink your role. who is actually
being the "parent?" i think you did assume that role.
--- Trisha Cummings <[log in to unmask]> wrote:

> Hi Kat,
>
>   Well, for starters - this minefield and Alex is 18
> now. She has an apointment next week with a
> otolaryngologist down in Newports were she goes to
> college. Step one. I have to wait till she back here
> - she will be back - the end of May. Then I take her
> to our primary care doctor and have a physical, and
> get a referral for a gastroentrogolist. We then rule
> out any real medical problems, get an offical
> diganosis from a professional, and move to
> recommended care from there. I have to work with her
> here, its no like with Amber where I am actually the
> parent. If she knew what I thought and planned - she
> would refuse to do it. And at 18 - she can. And I
> won't even get into the emotional issues here. I
> will continue to do what's right for her - for as
> long as she allows it.
>
>                                        Trisha
>
>
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: St. John's University Cerebral Palsy List
> [mailto:[log in to unmask]]On Behalf Of
> [log in to unmask]
> Sent: Wednesday, April 06, 2005 1:41 PM
> To: [log in to unmask]
> Subject: Re: Parental help needed
>
>
> I confess I'm wondering why you're waiting until the
> summer to get this
> checked out=2E  If it's bulima, her esophaugus could
> be damaged, and the
> longer you wait for treatment the worse off she will
> be=2E  If it's peptic=
>
> ulcers or something like that,  the untreated ulcer
> could perferate the
> stomach lining and she could be in danger of
> peronitis, a very dangerous
> condition=2E  So don't wait to get her to a
> doctor=2E
>
> Kat=20
>
> Original Message:
> -----------------
> From: Trisha Cummings TrishaC@SMDI=2ECOM
> Date: Wed, 06 Apr 2005 10:44:46 -0400
> To: C-PALSY@MAELSTROM=2ESTJOHNS=2EEDU
> Subject: Re: Parental help needed
>
>
> Hi Again Kat,
>
>      I think you may have hit the nail on the head -
> eating disorders are =
> a
> direct result of emotional problems=2E I am going to
> research bulimia -
> Thank!!! been thinking about since I got your
> e-mail=2E
>
>                              Trisha
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: St=2E John's University Cerebral Palsy List
> [mailto:C-PALSY@MAELSTROM=2ESTJOHNS=2EEDU]On Behalf
> Of ksalkin@triad=2Err=2E=
> com
> Sent: Wednesday, April 06, 2005 8:52 AM
> To: C-PALSY@MAELSTROM=2ESTJOHNS=2EEDU
> Subject: Re: Parental help needed
>
>
> Alex may be bingeing and purging=3D2E  Remember that
> eating disorders are
> reactions to stress and Alex may be having problems
> handling uni=3D2E  If =
> th=3D
> e
> teacher went to the lengths of contacting you
> regarding Alex's problems,
> she must be very concerned as I don't think uni
> teachers or professors
> normally contact parents for things like that - uni
> students are normally
> regarded as adults who are responsible for their own
> behavior and health=3D=
> 2E=3D
>  =3D20
>
> As I said, Bobby probably will have better advice to
> give you but I'm thin=
> =3D
> k
> you were right at least in investigating the matter,
> although I think you
> might have talked to Alex before talking to the
> teacher=3D2E  But then, Al=
> ex=3D
>
> might have told you she wasn't having any problems
> when she really is=3D2E=
>   =3D
> I
> feel it's a judgement call every parents has to make
> in a situation like
> this=3D2E
>
> Sorry I'm not being much help=3D2E=3D20
>
> Kat
>
> Original Message:
> -----------------
> From: Trisha Cummings TrishaC@SMDI=3D2ECOM
> Date: Wed, 06 Apr 2005 07:52:16 -0400
> To: C-PALSY@MAELSTROM=3D2ESTJOHNS=3D2EEDU
> Subject: Re: Parental help needed
>
>
> Hi Kat,
>
>   This wasn't angle I had thought of - she is very
> much over weigh and has=
> =3D
>
> gained at least 20 pounds being away school=3D2E I
> will take her to a
> gastroentrologist this summer - and I do see that
> she has counseling=3D2E =
> As=3D
>
> Amber said she makes herself throw becasue it makes
> her stomach quit
> hurting when she is upset=3D2E Was I wrong to talk
> to the teacher tho - An=
> d
> thanks for giving me something else to consider and
> check out=3D2E All pos=
> si=3D
> ble
> things need to be brought into play to help
> her=3D2E=3D20
>                                   Trisha
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: St=3D2E John's University Cerebral Palsy List
> [mailto:C-PALSY@MAELSTROM=3D2ESTJOHNS=3D2EEDU]On
> Behalf Of Kathy
> Sent: Wednesday, April 06, 2005 8:16 AM
> To: C-PALSY@MAELSTROM=3D2ESTJOHNS=3D2EEDU
> Subject: Re: Parental help needed
>
>
> Trisha, this may be a serious health problem - if
> Alex makes herself throw=
> =3D
>
> up
> she may be bulimic and that requires medical
> attention=3D2E  It's an eatin=
> g
> disorder and bulimics usually deny they're sick
> until they are seriously i=
> =3D
> ll
> or if they get counselling=3D2E  Bobby can give you
> better advice than I, =
> bu=3D
> t I
> seriously think you need to get her to a doctor
> ASAP=3D2E
>
> Kat
>
>
> On Wednesday 06 April 2005 11:33 am, Trisha Cummings
> wrote:
> > Greetings All,
> >
> >    Could use some parental advice here=3D2E My
> custodial child has emoti=
> on=3D
> al
> > problems - and it gives her bad stomach pains -
> she then makes herself
> > throw up=3D2E She is away at college and her voice
> teacher wants her to =
> se=3D
> e a
> > doctor for acid reflux=3D2E I e-mailed the teacher
> that this is not prob=
> le=3D
> m,
> > and what the real problem is=3D2E My daughter
> Amber says I was wrong to =
>
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