I wish to clarify some of my comments. The issue I was inquiring about was
whether it is worthwhile to try to pursue relationships with nondisabled men
as a disabled woman. As far as disabled vs. nodisabled men, I do not want to
be an adult man's mother, I wish to be his partner. I was married to a man
who did not participate in daily responsibilities & used his disability as
his excuse. I no longer want to be a caregiver in that sense. I have not
judged anyone on looks; but it has been my experience with nondisabled men
that they do. So, is trying to date nondisabled men only inviting rejection?


>From: rex sigafoos <[log in to unmask]>
>Reply-To: Americans with Disabilities Act Law <[log in to unmask]>
>To: [log in to unmask]
>Subject: Re: [ADA-LAW] Nondisabled men & Disabled Women?
>Date: Tue, 7 Nov 2000 09:26:52 -0800
>
>This writers comments has brought forth many thoughts
>and wish to share some of them here.First, any
>relationship that is based on how one looks is not
>worth pursueing. So, if the writer has been looking
>for that"handsome looking guy" change course. What
>makes a person popular and sought after, is your
>geninue interest in others(You can't fake it.Others
>can sense what you feel} She also mentioned she
>doesn't want to be "a Caregiver" Thats what  makes a
>relationship "special" Not physicaly being a caregiver
>necessary, but careing about the other person's
>dreams, goals and etc. When this writer learns these
>secrets well, she'll be much loved and sought after...
>--- mom mhc <[log in to unmask]> wrote:
> > Hi all,
> > I realize what I am about to ask is off-topic & very
> > un-PC, but I still
> > think its worthy of discussion. I have been trying
> > to date after a ten year
> > marriage, and am curious about whether, as a woman
> > who uses a cane due to
> > CP, I should really expect to date nondisabled men?
> >
> > I haven't had such great experiences up to now. I
> > think than somehow women
> > are more accepting of a man with "flaws" of any
> > sort, but that, in general,
> > men want more especially when it comes to physical
> > appearence.
> >
> > My ex is more effected by his disability than I,
> > although mine is more
> > visible. I don't want to be a caretaker again. I
> > just wonder if I'm wasting
> > my time trying to date nondisabled men.
> >
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