and i had no influnce what soever while she was in you home, i am real, you
have had no influlen at all on my son in the 12 years he was in my home.
that is my point. you were acting like a parent and you had the influence. i
am not equating giving birth or even conception with being a parent. people
outside the home do not have the influence that the adult inside the home
has, the one with the most influence is by default the one most responsible.
i said nothing of being a paragon of virtue. i said i am responsible for
teaching my kids right from wrong. i'll not back off that. who else is most
responsible for them. i make plenty of mistakes with that responsibilty just
like i do with other responsibilities, but, i am not going to blame my
mistakes on somebody else. i am responsible. i accept that. if i make a
mistake, then it is my fault and not the neighbors fault, not the governers
fault. it is mine. i can't blame you. on the other hand if you make a
mistake in influncing your child, then you can't blame me. you can place
responsibility only on the person who can do something, not on another who
is not in a position to do something. i am in a position with my two of
being able to do the most, i am therefore, the one with the most
responsibility, what i do with that responsibility notwithstanding.
lack of being willing to accept responsibility for our own actions is the
major problem that i see in this country. from our president on down, it is
pass the buck. i'll not do that. i am responsable for what i do in every
aspect of life, including being a good or bad parent.
i am quite sympathetic to your past. but, you have became more. you did
not let it beat you. i admire that, but, it is you that was responsibale for
overcoming. you get the credit. it does not belong to me, it is your
accomplishment. also the fact that while that child you refered to was under
your influence she did all those good things you told us about is to your
credit. you were responsible the 2 years that she was in your home. it was
your influence, not mine.
i will agree to disagree.
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Trisha Cummings [SMTP:[log in to unmask]]
> Sent: Friday, April 23, 1999 10:43 AM
> To: [log in to unmask]
> Subject: Re: Reaction to Colorado shootings
>
> Ken,
>
> Be real -- I just spent the better part of 2 years - raising
> someone
> else's kid because they where to self involved ( dad's [ non-biological
> one]
> is in the navy at sea and Mom is on husband 4 after finding a rich old
> coot
> doing prostitution while married to husband number 3)- and in that 2 years
> -
> she stayed clean from drugs and alcohol - worked , started college.
>
> Just because you're your a pargon of virtue at parenting doesn't
> mean everyone else is. I was an unwanted child - a throw-a-way - at
> nineteen - I jacked guys off in massage parlors and danced topless - to
> survive. I wish like hell some had cared enough to do for me what I have
> tried to do for Jackie. Maybe I could have missed - being raped as
> teenager,
> having my 1st husband batter my first child out me, and my second husband
> almost batter the life out me and chose a 3rd husband who would abandon
> us.
> My parents feel as you do - they are great parents and no one else could
> be
> influence me. That never never stopped my step/aopted father from raping
> me
> when I Amber age - nor both of them from beating me balck and blue and
> bleeding , nor the soul destroying thing sthey said. Even when I was 40 my
> mother lamented that she hadn't aborted me because I am so horrible. I on
> the other hand - know with all my heart I make mistakes and pray they
> aren't
> really bad ones that will hurt Amber and other children I reach out too.
>
> I hope if your children are ever away from home and need help -
> they
> run into someone like me and not someone like you. Because I will put
> myself
> between a child and danger - screw whose child they are!! I was in
> bookstore
> in the mall on busy shopping season - and saw a flasher and his intended
> victum - a little girl - no more than 5 maybe 6 - Her mother had sat her
> in
> a chair and wandered off - rather than keep her with her. He flashed me -
> and I saw the path he was taking and I made it between him and the little
> girl and of course the coward ran away - my only two thoughts were - gee
> that little!!! and not on my watch you don't buddy. It was all over so
> fast - I never got off a peep much less a good scream. The guy - clean
> cut,
> nice clothes, wedding band - etc. got away but at least the kid remained
> oblivious!! And thankfully Amber was with the person I was shopping with
> and
> not me at that moment
>
> So, lets be a little charitable and go the extra mile. I'll bet
> the
> parents of the children who where saved by the teacher shielding them from
> the gunshots are glad that guy was selfless!!
>
> Brightest Blessings
> Trisha
>
>
> >you are certainly intitled to your opinion. they may be all our children,
> >but, you'll never influence the two that live in my house like i do and
> >neither will any other persons. that is proven fact. make no mistake
> about
> >it, my wife and i are most responsible for these two and the parents of
> >other are most responsible for those in their care. that is not to say we
> >can't be an influence, but the most influence comes at home.
> >
> >> -----Original Message-----
> >> From: Trisha Cummings [SMTP:[log in to unmask]]
> >> Sent: Friday, April 23, 1999 9:24 AM
> >> To: [log in to unmask]
> >> Subject: Re: Reaction to Colorado shootings
> >>
> >> Ken,
> >>
> >> I think a reply post on the "Witch" list answers this the
> best.
> >>
> >> They are all our children - not just the ones you give
> birth,
> >> too. And we all responsible - not just the parents. Please don't let -
> the
> >> love and responsibilty for your fellow humann beings stop at the Church
> >> door
> >> as empty words. Live your beliefs.
> >>
> >> Brightest Blessings
> >> Trisha
> >> .
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