Hi Mag,

        Well, sometimes we just don't feel like it. I had a code for this -
I will offer a "warm spot" and then my partner knows what expect. Besides
our society makes to much fuss over this - that it ends up being performance
and folks suffer from performance anxiety. A slightly more natural approach
would be nice - you don't expect every meal to be a gourmet feast, sometimes
tuna fish casserole is nice. Its sad we spend all this time making it bad
and naughty and then glorify via TV and movies until people have major
problems with guilt and thinking its suppose to be like in the movies.

                                            Brightest Blessings
                                                  Trisha

>>steve, i don't know if you're kidding or not, but if that is true, glad i
>>could help.  even with the best lover, sometimes it just doesn't take, but
>>the lady can still enjoy the journey and when it becomes apparent she
isn't
>>going to make a goal, she should gently inform her partner so as not to
>blame
>>him.
>>
>>mag
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