Thanks!  Kathy





----- Original Message -----
From: Betty Alfred <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Saturday, February 12, 2000 1:28 PM
Subject: Re: Dealing with Asexuality


> In a message dated 02/12/2000 12:51:29 PM Eastern Standard Time,
> [log in to unmask] writes:
>
> << What is asexual?  Kathy
>   >>
>  Okay -- I'll be serious now.  "Asexual" 1.  Not having sex, No sex, Nada,
> Squat, Diddly.  2.  Not getting any.
>
> Causes are varied.
>
> a.  Sometimes the couple in question can be so stressed and busy that
> interest in sex takes a back seat.
>
> b.  Sometimes, after having been married for many years (or months as the
> case may be) the couple tends to wake up, look over at each other and
think
> "you again?"
>
> c.  Sometimes it's just a "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" kind
of
> thing.
> The first symptomatic presentation of this causal factor may be recurring
> headaches (this symptom often presents in the case of causal factor b. as
> well).
>
> d.  Lack of viable heterosexual partner options (i.e., "All the good ones
are
> gay or otherwise taken.").
>
> e.  Sometimes, as in my case, thoughts of sex are immediately followed by
> thoughts of "been there, done that, bought the tee shirt."  I am,
therefore,
> asexual by choice.  I am not, however frigid.  I am just tired.  But if I
> were to become unasexual tomorrow, my priorities in this regard would be
as
> follows:
>
> 1.  Sex
> 2.  Sex with a partner.
> 3. I leave No. 3 open for options.
>
> Here endeth the lesson.
>