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Date: | Fri, 10 Dec 1999 13:33:40 EST |
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I hate to use the word "invalidate" because I had a friend who ran it into
the ground until I thought I never wanted to hear it again. But this is why
it's so important not to invalidate someone's feelings about their
experiences. Things that would have a negative impact on them might not have
the same impact on me and vice versa.
People do this all the time though. I do it myself, I'm sure. I ain't a
judgin'
Betty
In a message dated 12/10/1999 12:17:56 PM Eastern Standard Time,
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<< The textbooks on adjustment to disabling conditions say that the impact
of a specific disability depends on its effect on what the individual with
the disabilty values most. A small facial scar would not effect me, I
already have some; but to a fashion model, it could be disastrous. Denise's
gram, I take it, valued physical health and independence very much. Cancer
did irreparable damage to these in her life and the result was detailed by
Denise.I wrote a play with my best friend while he was dying of cancer and
we joked about death as most "macho men" would do. I watched "Tuesday with
Morrie" the other night and some of those scenes brought back some bad
images of that phase of my life.
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