Amen Rhonda, Praise the Lord. that is good news to hear.
On Wed, Aug 20, 2014 at 12:59 PM, Rhonda Partain
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> I was glad to see this article I got from another list I am on; finally some
> good news for a change. Divorce rates aren't as bad as we thought.
>
> From Townhall.com
>
> Flash: Christians Actually Far Less Likely to Divorce
>
> Matt Barber Aug 18, 2014
>
> This is a game-changer. Talk about "an old wives' tale."
>
> You've heard it said that 1) 50 percent of all marriages end in divorce, 2)
> most marriages that do happen to make it are, nonetheless, unhappy, and 3)
> Christians are just as likely to divorce as non-believers.
>
> These claims, long understood to be research-based facts, never quite sat
> right with me. Still, admittedly, while these assertions do swim upstream
> against the flow of both our common sense and our common experience, we
> have, nevertheless, accepted them (present company included) as valid
> because b, well, you know, because beaSsocial science bea&b,
>
> As it turns out, your gut was right. It's all nonsense - urban legend of
> a sort, propagated, most likely, by the same post-moderns who, today, seek
> to similarly undermine the God-designed institution of legitimate man-woman
> marriage by redefining it into oblivion.
>
> Shaunti Feldhahn is a Harvard-trained researcher and author.
>
> In her recently released book, "The Good News About Marriage:
>
> Debunking Discouraging Myths about Marriage and Divorce,"
>
> Feldhahn details groundbreaking findings from an extensive eight-year study
> on marriage and divorce. Among other things, her research found:
>
> * The actual divorce rate has never gotten close to 50 percent.
>
> * Those who attend church regularly have a significantly lower divorce
> rate than those who don't.
>
> * Most marriages are happy.
>
> * Simple changes make a big difference in most marriage problems.
>
> * Most remarriages succeed.
>
> In an interview with CBN News, Feldhahn shared that, like most of us, she
> had swallowed the anti-marriage propaganda hook, line and sinker. She
> believed, "that most marriages are unhappy and
>
> 50 percent of them end in divorce, even in the church." The CBN story
> continues:
>
> "I didn't know. ... I've stood up on stage and said every one of these
> wrong statistics."
>
> "Then eight years ago, she asked assistant Tally Whitehead for specific
> research on divorce for an article she was writing.
>
> After much digging, neither of them could find any real numbers.
>
> "That kicked off a personal, years-long crusade to dig through the
> tremendously complicated, sometimes contradictory research to find the
> truth.
>
> "First-time marriages: probably 20 to 25 percent have ended in divorce on
> average," the study revealed. "Now, OK, that's still too high, but it's a
> whole lot better than what people think it is,` Feldhahn added."
>
> CBN noted, "[T]he 50 percent figure came from projections of what
> researchers thought the divorce rate would become as they watched the
> divorce numbers rising in the 1970s and early 1980s when states around the
> nation were passing no-fault divorce laws."
>
> So, in other words, and I wish I could say I long suspected this, the
> 50-percent divorce figure is simply a myth based upon decades-old (and
> woefully inaccurate) speculation. As it turns out, the shelf-life for
> marriages in the U.S. has taken a sharp turn for the better since the 1970s
> and '80s.
>
> "But the divorce rate has been dropping," Feldhahn said.
>
> "We've never hit those numbers [the 50 percent figure]. We've never gotten
> close."
>
> "And it's even lower among churchgoers, where a couple's chance of
> divorcing is more likely in the single digits or teens," added CBN.
>
> Additionally, the study determined that four-out-of-five marriages are
> happy. "That number flies in the face of the popular belief that only about
> 30 percent of marriages are happy."
>
> "Most people think most marriages are just kind of `eeh` ...
>
> just kind of rolling along," observed Feldhahn. "And they're shocked when I
> tell them that the actual average is 80 percent:
>
> 80 percent of marriages are happy. ...
>
> "The studies show that if they stay married for five years, that almost 80
> percent of those will be happy five years later,"
>
> she concluded."
>
> Still, of the study's many myth-busting revelations, the fact I found most
> interesting (and instructive) was this: Of all marriages, Christian
> marriages prove the most durable.
>
> "The Good News About Marriage" also reveals the divorce rate among those
> active in their church is 27 to 50 percent lower than among
> non-churchgoers," noted the report. "Feldhahn's hope is that once people
> learn the truth that they will spread it far and wide."
>
> "This is a great chance," she said, "to stand up and say. We were all
> fooled. Not anymore." Indeed, "Fool me once" ... and all that.
>
> I've covered it before. Here's what marriage is: the God-ordained,
> lifelong, covenantal union between man and wife, designed to provide men,
> women and children optimal stability and overall well-being. Marriage is
> that biologically, spiritually and morally centered institution calculated
> to ensure responsible procreation and perpetuate the human race. Marriage,
> real marriage, represents the fundamental cornerstone of any healthy society
> (any society that hopes to survive, at least).
>
> Here's what marriage is not: Anything else. In short, marriage is what it
> is.
>
> It's encouraging to learn that, even under the increasing barrage of
> no-fault divorce and sin-centric marriage re-definition artillery, this
> cornerstone institution has, thus far, survived all efforts to destroy it.
> It's even more encouraging to learn that, as with all things, marriages
> built upon the rock of Christ prove stronger still.
>
> I agree with Shaunti Feldhahn. Let's spread the good news far and wide.
>
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