Kathy,
I recently heard about a similar situation from a friend. They called the
poliece, who basically told them that they would back the parents up in
whatever they thought best. The parents had to take a lot of tough love
stands like that. Ultimately, over a period of months, this straightened
the young man out.
Keep it up and we'll keep standing with you.
Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not
depart from it.
The problem is, the bible never says how long it is going to take the child
to get old.
Vinny
----- Original Message -----
From: "Kathy Du Bois" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Saturday, January 31, 2004 8:33 AM
Subject: Re: We had the police at our house!
> Hey Brad,
> No, Chris was in the room with us and threatened to continue smashing up
> the house if he didn't get his cards back. We called the police because
> it really was the logical next step. Priscilla, herself, told us that we
> did the right thing. Now, she has pretty much assured me that I don't
> have to worry about damage to my family by human services because Chris's
> actions are on record. He is the threat to us, not the other way around
> and that is documented. We needed that for our family's protection.
>
> Also, yes, we have been wanting Chris to help with repares for a long
> time, but he hasn't gotten a job to pay for damages. Now, the judge will
> back us up. I know that this makes us sound weak, but we live in a state
> in which kids have a lot of power and, unfortunately, you just can't do
> what a parent should do, at times, you have to do things the right way.
> It's horrible being limited like this, but it's the way it is. Perhaps
> Julie can help explain it better, but maybe parenting isn't as
> constricted in Colorado. I don't know. In our favor too is the fact
> that we have Chris in counseling. This shows the state that we are
> taking this situation seriously even if he does not.
>
> Before Chris came home yesterday I prayed that whatever foothold that
> the devil was hoping to gain by getting into our household through those
> cards would be bound up by Christ and that instead, this would be an
> opportunity for his glory.
>
> You said that you couldn't understand Chris moving so quickly from
> wanting to destroy our house to wanting a hug. The actual time frame
> from beginning to end was around four hours. You got the Readers Digest
> version, believe me, but you have to remember that in the middle of it,
> he had to talk to the police, priscilla and he realized that his little
> tempre tantrum wasn't going to get him what he wanted, it was just going
> to get him removed. LIke the policeman said, and we agree, "Chris isn't
> stupid." Besides, if you think of Chris as immature, you've seen kids go
> from a full blown tantrum to wanting a hug haven't you? It's the same
> thing. He's sixteen in age, but not in emotions, or maybe he is, I don't
> know. I was never a sixteen year old boy.
>
> Anyway, from everybody that is in the know and in the business, we've
> been assured that we're on the right path. Sorry if my story of last
> night's events have left you more confused than ever. If I can continue
> to clear it up further I'm certainly willing to try.
> Thanks for caring,
> Kathy
>
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