All relationships which last are good ones.
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From: "Karen Carter" <[log in to unmask]>
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Sent: Wednesday, August 20, 2014 1:17 PM
Subject: Re: some good news for a change!


> Amen Rhonda, Praise the Lord.  that is good news to hear.
>
> On Wed, Aug 20, 2014 at 12:59 PM, Rhonda Partain
> <[log in to unmask]> wrote:
>> I was glad to see this article I got from another list I am on; finally 
>> some
>> good news for a change. Divorce rates aren't as bad as we thought.
>>
>> From Townhall.com
>>
>> Flash: Christians Actually Far Less Likely to Divorce
>>
>>   Matt Barber Aug 18, 2014
>>
>>   This is a game-changer.  Talk about "an old wives' tale."
>>
>> You've heard it said that 1) 50 percent of all marriages end in divorce, 
>> 2)
>> most marriages that do happen to make it are, nonetheless, unhappy, and 
>> 3)
>> Christians are just as likely to divorce as non-believers.
>>
>>   These claims, long understood to be research-based facts, never quite 
>> sat
>> right with me.  Still, admittedly, while these assertions do swim 
>> upstream
>> against the flow of both our common sense and our common experience, we
>> have, nevertheless, accepted them (present company included) as valid
>> because b, well, you know, because beaSsocial science bea&b,
>>
>>   As it turns out, your gut was right.  It's all nonsense - urban legend 
>> of
>> a sort, propagated, most likely, by the same post-moderns who, today, 
>> seek
>> to similarly undermine the God-designed institution of legitimate 
>> man-woman
>> marriage by redefining it into oblivion.
>>
>>   Shaunti Feldhahn is a Harvard-trained researcher and author.
>>
>> In her recently released book, "The Good News About Marriage:
>>
>> Debunking Discouraging Myths about Marriage and Divorce,"
>>
>> Feldhahn details groundbreaking findings from an extensive eight-year 
>> study
>> on marriage and divorce.  Among other things, her research found:
>>
>>   * The actual divorce rate has never gotten close to 50 percent.
>>
>>   * Those who attend church regularly have a significantly lower divorce
>> rate than those who don't.
>>
>>   * Most marriages are happy.
>>
>>   * Simple changes make a big difference in most marriage problems.
>>
>>   * Most remarriages succeed.
>>
>>   In an interview with CBN News, Feldhahn shared that, like most of us, 
>> she
>> had swallowed the anti-marriage propaganda hook, line and sinker.  She
>> believed, "that most marriages are unhappy and
>>
>> 50 percent of them end in divorce, even in the church." The CBN story
>> continues:
>>
>>   "I didn't know. ...  I've stood up on stage and said every one of these
>> wrong statistics."
>>
>>   "Then eight years ago, she asked assistant Tally Whitehead for specific
>> research on divorce for an article she was writing.
>>
>> After much digging, neither of them could find any real numbers.
>>
>>   "That kicked off a personal, years-long crusade to dig through the
>> tremendously complicated, sometimes contradictory research to find the
>> truth.
>>
>>   "First-time marriages: probably 20 to 25 percent have ended in divorce 
>> on
>> average," the study revealed.  "Now, OK, that's still too high, but it's 
>> a
>> whole lot better than what people think it is,` Feldhahn added."
>>
>>   CBN noted, "[T]he 50 percent figure came from projections of what
>> researchers thought the divorce rate would become as they watched the
>> divorce numbers rising in the 1970s and early 1980s when states around 
>> the
>> nation were passing no-fault divorce laws."
>>
>>   So, in other words, and I wish I could say I long suspected this, the
>> 50-percent divorce figure is simply a myth based upon decades-old (and
>> woefully inaccurate) speculation.  As it turns out, the shelf-life for
>> marriages in the U.S.  has taken a sharp turn for the better since the 
>> 1970s
>> and '80s.
>>
>>   "But the divorce rate has been dropping," Feldhahn said.
>>
>> "We've never hit those numbers [the 50 percent figure].  We've never 
>> gotten
>> close."
>>
>>   "And it's even lower among churchgoers, where a couple's chance of
>> divorcing is more likely in the single digits or teens," added CBN.
>>
>>   Additionally, the study determined that four-out-of-five marriages are
>> happy.  "That number flies in the face of the popular belief that only 
>> about
>> 30 percent of marriages are happy."
>>
>>   "Most people think most marriages are just kind of `eeh` ...
>>
>> just kind of rolling along," observed Feldhahn.  "And they're shocked 
>> when I
>> tell them that the actual average is 80 percent:
>>
>> 80 percent of marriages are happy. ...
>>
>>   "The studies show that if they stay married for five years, that almost 
>> 80
>> percent of those will be happy five years later,"
>>
>> she concluded."
>>
>>   Still, of the study's many myth-busting revelations, the fact I found 
>> most
>> interesting (and instructive) was this: Of all marriages, Christian
>> marriages prove the most durable.
>>
>>   "The Good News About Marriage" also reveals the divorce rate among 
>> those
>> active in their church is 27 to 50 percent lower than among
>> non-churchgoers," noted the report.  "Feldhahn's hope is that once people
>> learn the truth that they will spread it far and wide."
>>
>>   "This is a great chance," she said, "to stand up and say.  We were all
>> fooled.  Not anymore." Indeed, "Fool me once" ...  and all that.
>>
>>   I've covered it before.  Here's what marriage is: the God-ordained,
>> lifelong, covenantal union between man and wife, designed to provide men,
>> women and children optimal stability and overall well-being.  Marriage is
>> that biologically, spiritually and morally centered institution 
>> calculated
>> to ensure responsible procreation and perpetuate the human race. 
>> Marriage,
>> real marriage, represents the fundamental cornerstone of any healthy 
>> society
>> (any society that hopes to survive, at least).
>>
>>   Here's what marriage is not: Anything else.  In short, marriage is what 
>> it
>> is.
>>
>>   It's encouraging to learn that, even under the increasing barrage of
>> no-fault divorce and sin-centric marriage re-definition artillery, this
>> cornerstone institution has, thus far, survived all efforts to destroy 
>> it.
>> It's even more encouraging to learn that, as with all things, marriages
>> built upon the rock of Christ prove stronger still.
>>
>>   I agree with Shaunti Feldhahn.  Let's spread the good news far and 
>> wide.
>>
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