So true. Libbie was one in a million and I can only hope I gave as much
to her as she gave to me. Those of you who are fortunate enough to be
in a good relationship, don't take it for granted. Apreciate the time
you have as it can soon be gone. It has been 2 and a half years, and I
still feel like there is a big hole in my life and I suppose there
always will be.
73
Butch
WA0VJR
Node 3148
Wallace, ks.
On Mon, 27 May 2013, Tom Behler wrote:
> Amen, Lou!!
>
> It's always very easy to fall into the trap of focusing on our own needs, at
> the expense of our sighted partners, which is why open communication is oh
> so important, as is true in any relationship.
>
> Tom Behler: KB8TYJ
>
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Lou Kolb" <[log in to unmask]>
> To: <[log in to unmask]>
> Sent: Saturday, May 25, 2013 3:19 PM
> Subject: Re: sighted partners
>
>
>> intresting discussion. I met my wife, Kathy, through ham radio. She is
>> WB3KRN and we've been married for 24 years. She is sighted and I am
>> totaly
>> blind. We do quite well most of the time and seem to compliment each
>> other's abilities although, since she has her own health issues and
>> doesn't
>> get out as much as she'd like to, she sometimes hungers just to make eye
>> contact with someone. We often focus on our needs as people who are blind
>> but our sighted partners have their own needs which are just as valid.
>> 73,
>> Lou WA3MIX
>> ----- Original Message -----
>> From: "Steve Dresser" <[log in to unmask]>
>> To: <[log in to unmask]>
>> Sent: Saturday, May 25, 2013 1:41 PM
>> Subject: Re: sighted partners
>>
>>
>>> Well said, Harvey. I struggled with this question a lot when I was in
>>> college, and finally decided that although many things might be easier if
>>> I
>>> had a sighted wife, it was ultimately more important to marry someone who
>>> accepted and understood me regardless of whether that person could see or
>>> not. It seemed to me that some sighted girls wanted to go out with me
>>> because they saw an opportunity to rescue someone, and I definitely
>>> didn't
>>> want that. I don't think that was true in all cases, but I got tired of
>>> trying to figure out when it was or wasn't true. If I were looking for a
>>> mate today, I think that would just be one of many issues I'd want to
>>> resolve. If my potential mate could see, we'd have different issues than
>>> if
>>> she were blind, but ultimately it would come down to how well we could
>>> work
>>> through whatever issues we had, and where we came out at the end of the
>>> process.
>>>
>>> Steve
>>>
>>> ----- Original Message -----
>>> From: "Harvey Heagy" <[log in to unmask]>
>>> To: <[log in to unmask]>
>>> Sent: Saturday, May 25, 2013 11:03
>>> Subject: Re: sighted partners
>>>
>>>
>>>> I agree with you, Buddy. While it certainly is not a bad thing to have
>>>> access to sight, one must consider do they want a partner or a man or
>>>> maid
>>>> servant? After all, we are asking someone to accept our blindness,
>>>> shouldn't we as blind people ourselves do the same thing for another
>>>> blind
>>>> person? Those blind people who want a partner just for sight's sake, or
>>>> use
>>>> their sighted children for servants, guide dogs Etc. usually end up
>>>> regretting it. What makes or breaks a relationship to me is, do you
>>>> love
>>>> that person for what they are, and is that person the one you want to
>>>> spend
>>>> the rest of your life with in good times and bad?
>>>>
>>>> I am no stranger to that balance of power situation you spoke of. I was
>>>> briefly engaged to a sighted woman in 1976, but it was clear early on
>>>> that
>>>> she intended to use her sight to manipulate me which I wouldn't have.
>>>> Her
>>>> and her father's attitude basically was, "we don't care if you marry
>>>> her,
>>>> but we're calling the shots." You sign your name to a blank piece of
>>>> paper
>>>> and we'll fill in the details. No way, not for me.
>>>> Harvey
>>>>
>>
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