Hi Howard,
I had that issue with my grandmother.
She didn't want to tell me she was in pain because she didn't want me to have to get her meds.
She wasn't worried about me getting the right ones she just didn't want me to do anything for her.
It was hard for her to have others do things for her.
She was bedridden and this was hard for her.
I am praying for you and hope you know that she is now at peace.
God Bless!

Colleen Roth




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From: Howard Kaufman <[log in to unmask]>
To:  [log in to unmask]
Date: Tuesday, Dec 28, 2010 21:15:20
Subject: loss

>
>
> Thank you for the condolences!  It's been busy!
> Mom died on Thursday, we had to plan a funeral by Friday noon, suspend 
> everything for Christmas, and have a funeral on Sunday.  She was 92, and had 
> an arterial blockage in her foot.  I think she choose her time, when the 
> Grand Children were coming in to town.  She would have had an absolutely 
> horrid death if she had hung on, so that is a relief.
> I didn't see as much of her as I should have.  She believed in my 
> independence and ability for everybody else except for her.  She kept trying 
> to do the things I should have been doing for her.  Have any of you had that 
> kind of issue?
> H T Kaufman MSW LCSW
> Adaptive Technology Instructor