I don't mind yoou saying what's on your mind.  It's just that you say it in 
a way that insists it be on everybody elses mind to.  Ham radio has been 
accused as a refuge for people with out any social skills, Maybe we have an 
argument here for that belief.

If you'd stick to I rather than you us or we, then nobody could argue with 
you John.  It's when you demean everybody else, and their solutions, and 
demand concordence with your ideas, that you get a negative reaction.
If one person tells you are a jerk, maybe you are and maybe you are not.  As 
you have pointed out, when you have difficulty on list after list, well you 
don't need eyesight to look in a mirror and see where the problem is.