Also, perhaps I never allowed my son to stand up on his own and to take 
responsibility for his own actions as I ought was because I had to care for 
my husband's every need.  My husband became a child in every way down to me 
having to change his diapers.  I was trying at the same time to be a parent 
for a growing boy.  My daughter was grown and out of the house as my son was 
embarking on adolescents.
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Phil Scovell" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Saturday, October 11, 2008 11:17 PM
Subject: Re: Attention Angel


> Angel,
>
> Some of what you feel now is because of what you experienced with your
> husband.  That's why it seems more intense right now.
>
> Phil.
>
>
>
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "angel" <[log in to unmask]>
> To: <[log in to unmask]>
> Sent: Saturday, October 11, 2008 5:34 PM
> Subject: Re: Attention Angel
>
>
>> Thank you for your prayers and for your kind support.  I have never
>> experienced anything like this.  I thought what I went through with my
>> husband was hard but these feelings and this grief is something I have
> never
>> before experienced.
>> ----- Original Message ----- 
>> From: "Phil Scovell" <[log in to unmask]>
>> To: <[log in to unmask]>
>> Sent: Saturday, October 11, 2008 1:24 AM
>> Subject: Re: Attention Angel
>>
>>
>> > Angel,
>> >
>> > You did everything my wife and I did with our daughter.  She was
> arrested
>> > twice and jailed twice but I refused her calls.  She had three felonies
>> > and
>> > likely would have gone to prison for 10 years but she took all the drug
>> > and
>> > alcohol classes and she has been clean for a couple of years now.  You
> did
>> > nothing wrong, Angel, but it is far from easy.  I cried, couldn't eat,
> and
>> > my wife and I couldn't sleep off and on for many days that turned into
>> > months that turned into years.  We pray your son will be ministered to
> by
>> > someone in the jail so he doesn't have to go through all that.
>> >
>> > Phil.
>> >
>> >
>> >
>> > ----- Original Message ----- 
>> > From: "angel" <[log in to unmask]>
>> > To: <[log in to unmask]>
>> > Sent: Friday, October 10, 2008 10:38 PM
>> > Subject: Re: Attention Angel
>> >
>> >
>> >> I am a real mess.  When I first signed the complaint last Saturday at
> the
>> >> Jail.  He phoned me from another part of the jail.  He asked me to 
>> >> "get
>> > him
>> >> out".  He called me a couple times while I was going home and we
> argued.
>> >> After which, his calls were collect.  I don't have a conventional home
>> >> phone, rather I have a cell phone.  If one has such a phone, one must
> set
>> > up
>> >> an account with a third party provider to be able to accept those
> calls.
>> >> After a couple unsuccessful attempts to call me, it took a while for 
>> >> me
>> >> to
>> >> figure out this separate account plan that was in place he stopped
> trying
>> > to
>> >> call at all.  His last call was Tuesday evening.  I found he was to be
>> >> released Monday morning.  I arranged for the community transit to pick
> me
>> > up
>> >> Sunday to visit him at the jail.  In order to get optimal service one
>> >> must
>> >> schedule a ride at least 5 days in advance.  I got a post from someone
> on
>> >> another list from which I asked for prayer that his charges may have
> been
>> >> dropped.  I called this morning from work to determine the status of
>> >> those
>> >> charges.  They told me he had been transferred to another facility in
>> >> another suburb.  Of course, it was too late for me to reschedule a 
>> >> ride
>> > and
>> >> to be sure of service.  I called that jail.  They told me my son would
>> > have
>> >> to make an appointment to visit me before they would allow me to see
> him.
>> >> The only way he could do this would be for him to make a collect call
> to
>> > me.
>> >> I refused to accept those calls earlier in the week.  So, I don't 
>> >> think
>> >> he
>> >> will even attempt such a call.  I gave him a bus pass but I gave it to
>> >> the
>> >> property person at the jail where he originally was.  He doesn't know
> he
>> > has
>> >> a bus pass.  The buses at his new facility are nearly nonexistent.  I
>> > called
>> >> his cell today to find it is dead.  So with no money he wouldn't even
> be
>> >> able to call the "ride line" to find out when or if there were any
> busses
>> > to
>> >> take him to familiar ground.  He doesn't even know he isn't permitted
>> >> back
>> >> to the house.  I arranged with someone to drive me to give him a
> calling
>> >> card  so he can arrange a visit Sunday.  I then will arrange with my
>> > friend
>> >> to pick him up Monday morning.  I was just trying to give him some
> tough
>> >> love when I refused his collect calls.  I said I would not pay a cent
> to
>> >> help him or to have him call so we can argue on the phone.  Look where
>> > that
>> >> has gotten us both.  I suppose I am not a very good parent after all.
> I
>> > am
>> >> just glad I called the jail where he originally was this morning else 
>> >> I
>> >> would have gone there to find him gone with no way at such a late date
> to
>> >> even go to pick him up at the new facility.
>> >> He would have been stuck there with no way to get to a familiar spot.
>> >> Our
>> >> Lord has just got to help me.  I am not eating because I am not 
>> >> hungry.
>> > The
>> >> thought f food makes me sick.  I can hardly work, and my previously
> fine
>> >> mobility skills are just going down the toilet because of the stress.
>> >> ----- Original Message ----- 
>> >> From: "Phil Scovell" <[log in to unmask]>
>> >> To: <[log in to unmask]>
>> >> Sent: Thursday, October 09, 2008 6:11 PM
>> >> Subject: Attention Angel
>> >>
>> >>
>> >> > Did you get to speak with your son today?
>> >> >
>> >> > Phil.
>> >>
>>