Angel,

You did everything my wife and I did with our daughter.  She was arrested
twice and jailed twice but I refused her calls.  She had three felonies and
likely would have gone to prison for 10 years but she took all the drug and
alcohol classes and she has been clean for a couple of years now.  You did
nothing wrong, Angel, but it is far from easy.  I cried, couldn't eat, and
my wife and I couldn't sleep off and on for many days that turned into
months that turned into years.  We pray your son will be ministered to by
someone in the jail so he doesn't have to go through all that.

Phil.



----- Original Message ----- 
From: "angel" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Friday, October 10, 2008 10:38 PM
Subject: Re: Attention Angel


> I am a real mess.  When I first signed the complaint last Saturday at the
> Jail.  He phoned me from another part of the jail.  He asked me to "get
him
> out".  He called me a couple times while I was going home and we argued.
> After which, his calls were collect.  I don't have a conventional home
> phone, rather I have a cell phone.  If one has such a phone, one must set
up
> an account with a third party provider to be able to accept those calls.
> After a couple unsuccessful attempts to call me, it took a while for me to
> figure out this separate account plan that was in place he stopped trying
to
> call at all.  His last call was Tuesday evening.  I found he was to be
> released Monday morning.  I arranged for the community transit to pick me
up
> Sunday to visit him at the jail.  In order to get optimal service one must
> schedule a ride at least 5 days in advance.  I got a post from someone on
> another list from which I asked for prayer that his charges may have been
> dropped.  I called this morning from work to determine the status of those
> charges.  They told me he had been transferred to another facility in
> another suburb.  Of course, it was too late for me to reschedule a ride
and
> to be sure of service.  I called that jail.  They told me my son would
have
> to make an appointment to visit me before they would allow me to see him.
> The only way he could do this would be for him to make a collect call to
me.
> I refused to accept those calls earlier in the week.  So, I don't think he
> will even attempt such a call.  I gave him a bus pass but I gave it to the
> property person at the jail where he originally was.  He doesn't know he
has
> a bus pass.  The buses at his new facility are nearly nonexistent.  I
called
> his cell today to find it is dead.  So with no money he wouldn't even be
> able to call the "ride line" to find out when or if there were any busses
to
> take him to familiar ground.  He doesn't even know he isn't permitted back
> to the house.  I arranged with someone to drive me to give him a calling
> card  so he can arrange a visit Sunday.  I then will arrange with my
friend
> to pick him up Monday morning.  I was just trying to give him some tough
> love when I refused his collect calls.  I said I would not pay a cent to
> help him or to have him call so we can argue on the phone.  Look where
that
> has gotten us both.  I suppose I am not a very good parent after all.  I
am
> just glad I called the jail where he originally was this morning else I
> would have gone there to find him gone with no way at such a late date to
> even go to pick him up at the new facility.
> He would have been stuck there with no way to get to a familiar spot.  Our
> Lord has just got to help me.  I am not eating because I am not hungry.
The
> thought f food makes me sick.  I can hardly work, and my previously fine
> mobility skills are just going down the toilet because of the stress.
> ----- Original Message ----- 
> From: "Phil Scovell" <[log in to unmask]>
> To: <[log in to unmask]>
> Sent: Thursday, October 09, 2008 6:11 PM
> Subject: Attention Angel
>
>
> > Did you get to speak with your son today?
> >
> > Phil.
>