Hams are like everybody else.  Some good people, some shmucks.  All you need 
is one.  I learned a lot about apropriate social skills hanging around our 
local ham club.  If you pick your nose and rock, you can expect that people 
will be uncomfortable with you.  If you listen and learn and contribute time 
and energy, you can expect good reception.  Don't wine, or focus on your 
blindness or helplesness.