I am a real mess.  When I first signed the complaint last Saturday at the 
Jail.  He phoned me from another part of the jail.  He asked me to "get him 
out".  He called me a couple times while I was going home and we argued. 
After which, his calls were collect.  I don't have a conventional home 
phone, rather I have a cell phone.  If one has such a phone, one must set up 
an account with a third party provider to be able to accept those calls. 
After a couple unsuccessful attempts to call me, it took a while for me to 
figure out this separate account plan that was in place he stopped trying to 
call at all.  His last call was Tuesday evening.  I found he was to be 
released Monday morning.  I arranged for the community transit to pick me up 
Sunday to visit him at the jail.  In order to get optimal service one must 
schedule a ride at least 5 days in advance.  I got a post from someone on 
another list from which I asked for prayer that his charges may have been 
dropped.  I called this morning from work to determine the status of those 
charges.  They told me he had been transferred to another facility in 
another suburb.  Of course, it was too late for me to reschedule a ride and 
to be sure of service.  I called that jail.  They told me my son would have 
to make an appointment to visit me before they would allow me to see him. 
The only way he could do this would be for him to make a collect call to me. 
I refused to accept those calls earlier in the week.  So, I don't think he 
will even attempt such a call.  I gave him a bus pass but I gave it to the 
property person at the jail where he originally was.  He doesn't know he has 
a bus pass.  The buses at his new facility are nearly nonexistent.  I called 
his cell today to find it is dead.  So with no money he wouldn't even be 
able to call the "ride line" to find out when or if there were any busses to 
take him to familiar ground.  He doesn't even know he isn't permitted back 
to the house.  I arranged with someone to drive me to give him a calling 
card  so he can arrange a visit Sunday.  I then will arrange with my friend 
to pick him up Monday morning.  I was just trying to give him some tough 
love when I refused his collect calls.  I said I would not pay a cent to 
help him or to have him call so we can argue on the phone.  Look where that 
has gotten us both.  I suppose I am not a very good parent after all.  I am 
just glad I called the jail where he originally was this morning else I 
would have gone there to find him gone with no way at such a late date to 
even go to pick him up at the new facility.
He would have been stuck there with no way to get to a familiar spot.  Our 
Lord has just got to help me.  I am not eating because I am not hungry.  The 
thought f food makes me sick.  I can hardly work, and my previously fine 
mobility skills are just going down the toilet because of the stress.
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Phil Scovell" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Thursday, October 09, 2008 6:11 PM
Subject: Attention Angel


> Did you get to speak with your son today?
>
> Phil.