Carol,
Document your grace in the situation and her abuses of it, and start
looking for replacement :). You don't need the added stress to your life.
Pray how God would have you dissolve the situation and follow his lead and
you'll be alright.
Brad
At 09:55 AM 8/18/2007, you wrote:
>Hi all,
>
>I'm just writing to share a little bit of what's happening here and why
>the stress lines have been rising in the last few days. I need you to
>pray now because things are moving on and, frankly, I think this lady may
>have to be out of my life sooner rather than later!
>
>I am privileged to have some help with daily tasks that I cannot do for
>myself and the hours that I am given (in terms of money to pay for such
>help) are generous. In fact, for the first time in my life, I can
>sometimes get out and really enjoy myself and not just stick to the urgent
>jobs that must be done the next time I get some sighted help! Anyway, I
>employed two ladies for a few hours each week to help me with this earlier
>on this year. For one, who has three children, it has been a joy and no
>problem to keep her children well cared for while she is with me on a
>regular basis. For the other, who has a daughter of seven, it has been a
>real problem, not just for me but for both of us and is becoming a bit of
>a nightmare for me. Basically, this particular lady is not only needing to
>look after her daughter but is wanting all that she wants in life as well,
>and that includes squash games and trips to the gym which must fit my
>schedule. Well, I worked really hard with her in the months before the
>Summer break, as I had discovered that she was taking time out to care for
>her daughter and not finding an alternative. I made a slight alteration
>to the contract she had to sign, agreeing some flexibility in the Summer,
>but she has taken me rather for granted and not given anywhere near the
>time she should and she has persistently requested a start or end time to
>fit around her life. Well, the other person who works for me is sick
>following surgery and I'm left with no help. Having worked through the
>hours that this lady has taken from me, I have firmly concluded that this
>has to stop. She does have a father for the young girl and they live
>together, supposedly, as a happy family; and she has his sister with whom
>she apparently gets on extremely well. In addition there's an older son
>by Dad's first marriage and he comes over sometimes to be with them and
>look after the little girl when it suits them. OK, so she is not totally
>without help, though perhaps she needs more. The problem is that she's
>not taking up that help, or possibly not even asking for it, because she
>wants to be home when she wants to be home with her daughter and to still
>keep a job, on her terms.
>
>Over the past few days I have made alteration to her contract to make it
>absolutely clear what she can and cannot do if she wishes to continue to
>be employed by me. I have endeavoured to be fair and caring over the past
>many months and have given, as I say, in excess of 15 hours, plus a week's
>paid holiday whilst I was away and she has taken two weeks' off. Now,
>when you only employ a couple of people, that gets difficult and totally
>unworkable, especially as the job is to meet my needs (much more than my
>wants) and includes many things that I cannot manage myself. Anyway, I
>had to call her today because the other person will not be able to come in
>this week and she said, "Well, I'll try to make one day," when I am
>supposed to have hours on four different days by the two ladies and they
>know I hope they will cover, at least to some extent, for one another's
>sickness and holiday. I have indicated that I need some firm answer from
>her in the next day or so and also that I would like her to take a look at
>the new contract over the next few days and sign this before she goes off
>on holiday. (She's away for about eleven days). I think it is very
>likely that she will not want to sign the contract and/or that it could
>get a bit difficult all round. (I learned through a round about route
>after employing her and not receiving a reference that she took her only
>other employer to Court some years ago and lost the case because she
>clearly wanted to work her own hours and he needed full-time
>employment. It seems she is still acting in the same manner.)
>
>Anyway, I've probably given you ample to know what's going on and I just
>ask for wisdom and that God will continue to help me in all my dealings
>with her.
>
>--
>Carol
>
>-- Lies imprison; truth frees. The Son frees indeed as the light of His
>truth shines in the darkness of our lies. Jesus knows the geography of our
>souls,
>the origin of our lies, the whole path to deliverance and freedom. --
>Dwight A. Clough, Discoveries mailing list
>http://six.pairlist.net/mailman/listinfo/discoveries
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