Carol, wow this sounds like a tough situation friend, I will pray with and 
for you.

hugs


Lelia
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Carol Pearson" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Saturday, August 18, 2007 9:55 AM
Subject: WHAT'S GOING ON WITH ME?


> Hi all,
>
> I'm just writing to share a little bit of what's happening here and why 
> the stress lines have been rising in the last few days.  I need you to 
> pray now because things are moving on and, frankly, I think this lady may 
> have to be out of my life sooner rather than later!
>
> I am privileged to have some help with daily tasks that I cannot do for 
> myself and the hours that I am given (in terms of money to pay for such 
> help) are generous.  In fact, for the first time in my life, I can 
> sometimes get out and really enjoy myself and not just stick to the urgent 
> jobs that must be done the next time I get some sighted help!  Anyway, I 
> employed two ladies for a few hours each week to help me with this earlier 
> on this year. For one, who has three children, it has been a joy and no 
> problem to keep her children well cared for while she is with me on a 
> regular basis.  For the other, who has a daughter of seven, it has been a 
> real problem, not just for me but for both of us and is becoming a bit of 
> a nightmare for me. Basically, this particular lady is not only needing to 
> look after her daughter but is wanting all that she wants in life as well, 
> and that includes squash games and trips to the gym which must fit my 
> schedule. Well, I worked really hard with her in the months before the 
> Summer break, as I had discovered that she was taking time out to care for 
> her daughter and not finding an alternative.  I made a slight alteration 
> to the contract she had to sign, agreeing some flexibility in the Summer, 
> but she has taken me rather for granted and not given anywhere near the 
> time she should and she has persistently requested a start or end time to 
> fit around her life. Well, the other person who works for me is sick 
> following surgery and I'm left with no help.  Having worked through the 
> hours that this lady has taken from me, I have firmly concluded that this 
> has to stop.  She does have a father for the young girl and they live 
> together, supposedly, as a happy family;  and she has his sister with whom 
> she apparently gets on extremely well.  In addition there's an older son 
> by Dad's first marriage and he comes over sometimes to be with them and 
> look after the little girl when it suits them.  OK, so she is not totally 
> without help, though perhaps she needs more.  The problem is that she's 
> not taking up that help, or possibly not even asking for it, because she 
> wants to be home when she wants to be home with her daughter and to still 
> keep a job, on her terms.
>
> Over the past few days I have made alteration to her contract to make it 
> absolutely clear what she can and cannot do if she wishes to continue to 
> be employed by me.  I have endeavoured to be fair and caring over the past 
> many months and have given, as I say, in excess of 15 hours, plus a week's 
> paid holiday whilst I was away and she has taken two weeks' off.  Now, 
> when you only employ a couple of people, that gets difficult and totally 
> unworkable, especially as the job is to meet my needs (much more than my 
> wants) and includes many things that I cannot manage myself.  Anyway, I 
> had to call her today because the other person will not be able to come in 
> this week and she said, "Well, I'll try to make one day," when I am 
> supposed to have hours on four different days by the two ladies and they 
> know I hope they will cover, at least to some extent, for one another's 
> sickness and holiday.  I have indicated that I need some firm answer from 
> her in the next day or so and also that I would like her to take a look at 
> the new contract over the next few days and sign this before she goes off 
> on holiday.  (She's away for about eleven days).  I think it is very 
> likely that she will not want to sign the contract and/or that it could 
> get a bit difficult all round.  (I learned through a round about route 
> after employing her and not receiving a reference that she took her only 
> other employer to Court some years ago and lost the case because she 
> clearly wanted to work her own hours and he needed full-time employment. 
> It seems she is still acting in the same manner.)
>
> Anyway, I've probably given you ample to know what's going on and I just 
> ask for wisdom and that God will continue to help me in all my dealings 
> with her.
>
> --
> Carol
>
> -- Lies imprison; truth frees. The Son frees indeed as the light of His 
> truth shines in the darkness of our lies. Jesus knows the geography of our 
> souls,
> the origin of our lies, the whole path to deliverance and freedom. --
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