First of all, what email client are you using?  Are you sending your
messages in plain text?

To me independence means being able to make informed choices and live your
own life as you wish without having to depend on anyone else to make your
decisions for you.  It also means being able to say "no" and having it
understood as "no."

Now please tell me, who in the hell told you you 'seemed "weak" and easy to
abuse'?  That is so numbingly inhumane, it's despicable. Abuse victims have
problems trusting anyone and please know you're not alone in this.

Kat



-----Original Message-----
From: Cerebral Palsy List [mailto:[log in to unmask]] On Behalf Of
Mary Powers
Sent: Tuesday, April 22, 2008 11:14 PM
To: [log in to unmask]
Subject: Re: what were your childhoods like?

Hello,

I'm 39.? 

are my posts showing up with question marks?? b/c I am typing them normally
and then seeing question marks after the end of some sentences.

anyway, I think my vision problems were a key part of what was wrong.?
basically I lived in fear b/c I could not visually process and mentally
integrate information.? one problem I had was called 'visual neglect.'?
anything past midline (when my head was straight) didn't register so objects
to my RHS - they were there and I in some way "saw" them, but not well.?
they did not register mentally as important.? so I fell and etc. a lot.

it left me with the feeling that I could get harmed easily b/c I could not
see.? my parents took me to Doctors who didn't listen.? in my case, it
wasn't having the impairment per se, but rather, having *no accommodations*
for it.

I also had both physical and sexual abuse outside the family, where I was
told directly that I seemed "weak" and easy to abuse so that caused a lot of
trouble.

but - now I am an adult and I have far better help and more resources.? I
have some very supportive people in my life.

my biggest problem is exhausting myself trying to be independent.? my second
biggest problem is not understanding what independence is.? after that it's
anxiety.

what is independence?? and how can I know my limits and still be
independent?? when is it "giving up" and when it is right to stick things
out?

that confuses me.

take care,

Mary Katherine








 


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