Somebody (I can't find the particular post and I can't remember who wrote it
) asked me how I liked the book. . .  Well, it was a while back. . .  I
think I liked it, Although , the book focused on only one disability (like
most books do) (and it wasn't CP).


Kathy











On 7/25/07, Susan Moskowitz <[log in to unmask]> wrote:
>
> Kendall,
>    Thanks for the link to Bobby's story, I had it bookmarked on my old
> computer, but lost it when I switched to my new laptop.
> Susan
> ----- Original Message -----
> From: "Kendall D. Corbett" <[log in to unmask]>
> Newsgroups: bit.listserv.c-palsy
> To: <[log in to unmask]>
> Sent: Wednesday, July 25, 2007 1:05 PM
> Subject: Re: GO-D FOOD FOR THOUGHT PLEASE READ Are we to blame for our
> son's
> brain dysfunction? - Latest Questions
>
>
> > Meir,
> >
> > I'm not much of a theologian, and definitely not a Torah scholar, but
> > IMHO, G-d allows some of the challenges we face as a "test of our
> > mettle."  I don't think he (for lack of a better inclusive pronoun)
> > causes them, but when they happen, we are faced with choices about how
> > to deal with them.  Some may do better than others, and I think he's
> > pleased with those who do well.
> >
> > The "great souls" theory is a bit much for me, although there are
> > lessons we and our families and those we meet can take from the
> > obstacles presented by disability and other challenges.  I refuse to
> > believe that my soul (or yours, for that matter) is any greater than
> > my brother's or my sister's - and I use those filial terms in the
> > broadest sense possible.
> >
> > As far as "special" children being given to "special" families, this
> > is a stretch for me as well.  Working in the disabilities field for
> > over twenty years, I've seen families that deal well with disability
> > issues and families that don't deal well with it.  The hope that I
> > have for children and families (and again, I mean this in the broadest
> > sense possible) that are touched by disability is that they find a way
> > to grow together to meet it to the best of their abilities.
> >
> > As far as the things Chana Weisberg suggests as helpful, I'm afraid I
> > don't have the background in Hebrew to know what most of them are, but
> > I think they all boil down to "doing good in the world."  I would add
> > to those by encouraging parents of children with disabilities (and
> > people with disabilities themselves) to allow your child, our
> > yourself, to live as full a life as possible.  In closing, one of the
> > best things I've ever read on dealing with disability was written by a
> > well respected former member of this list, who is no longer with us.
> >
> > Bobby, we still miss your wise counsel.
> >
> > http://www.tell-us-your-story.com/_disc98b/00000005.htm
> >
> >
> > On 7/22/07, Meir Weiss <[log in to unmask]> wrote:
> >> http://www.chabad.org/library/article.asp?AID=541123
> >>
> >>
> >> Printed from Chabad.org
> >>
> >> Are we to blame for our son's brain dysfunction?
> >>
> >> Question:
> >>
> >>                My son was diagnosed with a form of brain dysfunction.
> >> Please let me know if his parents or grandparents did something to
> >> deserve this punishment. Should we blame ourselves for his illness?
> Also,
> >> how can we help him?
> >>
> >> Answer:
> >>
> >> I am sorry about your son's diagnosis. It can be a difficult time for
> >> parents to reach an acceptance of why things happened this way. Often,
> >> they will incorrectly blame themselves or fault themselves for a
> child's
> >> sickness.
> >>
> >> We do not know why G‑d runs His world as He does. We do not understand
> >> why there is suffering, sickness, poverty, hunger or the many seemingly
> >> unfair challenges and tribulations in our world.
> >>
> >> We are told that sometimes very great souls need to descend to this
> >> world. These souls are so lofty that the physical realm cannot contain
> >> them, so they come into a body that "shatters" from its impact. Your
> >> son's brain might be somewhat dysfunctional because of the great holy
> >> soul that is enclothed within it. Many parents of special needs
> children
> >> vouch for this, explaining how despite the child's many needs, these
> >> children have a certain purity to them, or a certain power to them, in
> >> helping others to accept them because of who they are, not what they
> can
> >> give to this world, or to their families. Such children teach us the
> >> power of real love--a love that is not based on any preconditions.
> >>
> >> As far as your question if you did anything to "deserve" this: Special
> >> children are most often given to very special families, who can see
> >> beyond their external dysfunction to the beauty of their soul. No, I do
> >> not think you should blame yourself for your son's sickness.
> >>
> >> As far as what you can do to help him--as with any area of our physical
> >> world, its source is in the spiritual worlds. You can obviously help
> this
> >> child by doing mitzvot in his merit. You can choose any mitzvah that
> you
> >> like--extra charity, extra prayers, helping someone in need, mezuzah,
> >> kashrut, etc.--and keep it in his merit. You will thus be strengthening
> >> him spiritually and hopefully physically too.
> >>
> >> While G‑d listens to all prayers, the supplications of a tzaddik, a
> >> righteous individual, are especially potent. I would advise you to
> write
> >> a note to be placed on the Rebbe's gravesite, asking him to pray on
> your
> >> child's behalf. Click here <http://www.chabad.org/article.asp?AID=36248
> >
> >> to find instructions on how to do so.
> >>
> >> Wishing you success and blessings,
> >>
> >> Chana Weisberg for Chabad.org
> >>
> >>
> >>
> >>
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> >
> > Kendall
> >
> > An unreasonable man (but my wife says that's redundant!)
> >
> > The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one
> > persists in trying to adapt the world to himself. Therefore, all
> > progress depends on the unreasonable man.
> >
> > -George Bernard Shaw 1856-1950
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