Hi Cecily,
That was a sweet and thoughtful thing for your coworkers to do for you.  I 
am sure it comforted you.
Huggs and blessings,
Virgie and Hoshi
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Cecily Ballenger" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Saturday, April 21, 2007 8:49 PM
Subject: Re: Grief


> As a result of my Dad passing, I just got more flowers today. I received a
> bouquet yesterday from work. Now today, I received a basket with a plant 
> in
> it from "Your friends from Standard", meaning from where I work. Yesterday
> was from mostly my department, but today this plant came from people in
> other departments. WE have a flower shop downstairs, so I think that's 
> where
> they came from. I really enjoy flowers.
>
> Cecily
>
> -----Original Message-----
> From: The Electronic Church [mailto:[log in to unmask]] On
> Behalf Of Pat Ferguson
> Sent: Monday, March 05, 2007 9:37 PM
> To: [log in to unmask]
> Subject: Re: Grief
>
> Hi Phil, and Everyone,
>
> I am still grieving over the loss of my Mom and Carolyn. I soaked my
> pillow last night, as I really miss my Mom a whole lot. I miss Carolyn,
> also.
>
> I guess it's good to cry now and then, and I do.
>
> I pray and that helps a whole lot along with the Busbar I take at
> night. It helps with anxiety and bad dreams.
>
> I'm tired of feeding those night mairs. lol.
>
> When I tell Vernon I had a night mair, he always asks me if I took my
> hay to bed with me. lol.
>
> Jesus is so wonderful, and He never fails us.
>
> Love,
> Pat Ferguson
> At 06:22 PM 3/5/2007, you wrote:
>>Professionals who have studied grief, report that it takes 18 months to a
>>couple of years to get to the place one is able to cope with the loss of a
>>loved one.  I went through this with George, until his wife refused he 
>>call
>>me any longer, but I went through it myself.  I carried the grief for way
>>more than two years and, in fact, the grief itself really came out 40 
>>years
>>later.  There are grief ministries now, George and his wife went through
> one
>>at a church they began attending, and things like that help.  Grief
>>counselors generally help, too.  In my opinion, which isn't worth much, if
>>you find a person who is always saying they passed on, or they passed 
>>away,
>>you will be talking with a person who is either still experiencing the
>>grief, which is normally buried pretty deep, or a person who is afraid of
>>death itself for some reason.  The Enemy goes into high gear on this one
> and
>>attempts to create all types of excuses.  When my mom recently died, well,
>>it was, what?  Four years ago?  Anyhow, I went for several weeks with the
>>thought that I should have done more, that is, been more involved.  You
>>don't know my three sisters.  they run everything and I just go along for
>>the ride, if, that is, I am invited at all, but that's another story.  Our
>>first basset hound died shortly after my mother's death.  So what, you 
>>say,
>>that's just a dog.  Put that thought aside for the moment then if you 
>>can't
>>identify with it.  When we had to put our hound to sleep due to a large
>>cancerous growth in his throat, see?  We even call it putting the animal 
>>to
>>sleep instead of saying, well, you know.  Anyhow, the Holy Spirit used 
>>this
>>experience to cause grief to surface about my mother.  I have written a
>>testimony about it that's on my website that explains what I was feeling
> and
>>the lie it generated in me.  I never would have understood it if the Lord
>>had not revealed it to me.  There are ways of shortening the period of
>>grief.  this does not imply that your feelings for that loved one goes
> away.
>>I'm 55 years old and I still cry once and awhile about my dad who died 44
>>years ago.  Why?  Aren't I over it?  I miss him is the true answer.
> Missing
>>someone you love is different than grief.  Grief, left to itself and to 
>>the
>>beguilement and deception of the Enemy will destroy your life.  No, that
>>doesn't mean you'll physically die but it means you will stop living.  Do
>>not be deceived in to believing that the Enemy will not bother you about
>>something as mundane as a loved one dying.  He will eat your lunch for a
> lot
>>less of a reason than that.
>>
>>Phil.
>
>
>
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