I think people don't know how to deal with someone who's grieving, and 
they're uncomfortable, so they try to stop the person from grieving for 
their comfort.  It's hard to let someone you love cry and be in pain and 
realize that you can't do anything to make it better.  But really, no one 
has to do anything to make it better.  They just need to be there and let 
you feel what you feel.

Peggy
http://kernsac.livejournal.com/
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Rhonda Partain" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Friday, July 20, 2007 8:06 PM
Subject: allowing time to grieve


> I've probably told you all how special my grandmother was to me, a true
> example of the love God has  for me.  So, understandably I  am sad that 
> she
> is no  longer here with me..I know she is with Jesus, that she is in no 
> pain
> and I'd never call her back here if I could, but why is it that others 
> seem
> to want to stop me from crying?  It is  only human to miss those we love,
> life isn't the same with out them,  one person even said "I was overjoyed
> when I heard the news" I know what they meant..she  was no longer in pain,
> but my first reaction was not joy!
> I at first felt shocked, then terribly sad,  I felt as though the only
> source of unconditional love and support I had ever known was gone 
> forever,
> but  that isn't really true..God is still here, my grandmother was just a
> living example of how God sees me, I am special, valued,  I am loved,
> sometimes I tend to forget that!
> One person said "well, she  is in a better place" and I said "Yes, but I'm
> still living here"
>
> Rhonda
>
>
>
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