Thanks Phil for sharing this with us.  Grief is something we all deal with 
at one time or another and it can sure turn your life upside for a time.
Virgie and Hoshi
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Phil Scovell" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Monday, March 05, 2007 7:22 PM
Subject: Grief


> Professionals who have studied grief, report that it takes 18 months to a
> couple of years to get to the place one is able to cope with the loss of a
> loved one.  I went through this with George, until his wife refused he 
> call
> me any longer, but I went through it myself.  I carried the grief for way
> more than two years and, in fact, the grief itself really came out 40 
> years
> later.  There are grief ministries now, George and his wife went through 
> one
> at a church they began attending, and things like that help.  Grief
> counselors generally help, too.  In my opinion, which isn't worth much, if
> you find a person who is always saying they passed on, or they passed 
> away,
> you will be talking with a person who is either still experiencing the
> grief, which is normally buried pretty deep, or a person who is afraid of
> death itself for some reason.  The Enemy goes into high gear on this one 
> and
> attempts to create all types of excuses.  When my mom recently died, well,
> it was, what?  Four years ago?  Anyhow, I went for several weeks with the
> thought that I should have done more, that is, been more involved.  You
> don't know my three sisters.  they run everything and I just go along for
> the ride, if, that is, I am invited at all, but that's another story.  Our
> first basset hound died shortly after my mother's death.  So what, you 
> say,
> that's just a dog.  Put that thought aside for the moment then if you 
> can't
> identify with it.  When we had to put our hound to sleep due to a large
> cancerous growth in his throat, see?  We even call it putting the animal 
> to
> sleep instead of saying, well, you know.  Anyhow, the Holy Spirit used 
> this
> experience to cause grief to surface about my mother.  I have written a
> testimony about it that's on my website that explains what I was feeling 
> and
> the lie it generated in me.  I never would have understood it if the Lord
> had not revealed it to me.  There are ways of shortening the period of
> grief.  this does not imply that your feelings for that loved one goes 
> away.
> I'm 55 years old and I still cry once and awhile about my dad who died 44
> years ago.  Why?  Aren't I over it?  I miss him is the true answer. 
> Missing
> someone you love is different than grief.  Grief, left to itself and to 
> the
> beguilement and deception of the Enemy will destroy your life.  No, that
> doesn't mean you'll physically die but it means you will stop living.  Do
> not be deceived in to believing that the Enemy will not bother you about
> something as mundane as a loved one dying.  He will eat your lunch for a 
> lot
> less of a reason than that.
>
> Phil.