Angel,

First let me say, for your original request, that of the radio, 
yes  material possessions are OK to have, as long as they don't have us if 
you get my meaning. I think you do have the right  perspective on that. 
Now,  with respect to your parenting and lack or failure of, deserving of 
and etc. particularly towards Kathy's comment, I have a couple 
observations if I may.

I will start off saying I wouldn't make any comment if I didn't care for 
you and so  that will be the foundation of my comments. I will say that 
the comment of "not deserving any children" and the accompanying 
statements  seems to be  out of a knee jerk response  to an offense and 
hurt feelings. That should be, at least for my sake, pointed out. When I 
read Kathy's comments I thought... "Oooh, that's a tough one", almost 
harsh? But the contents of what she said was spot on when it comes to 
discipline. I sense you  were offended by the term "that's bad parenting". 
At least that term stuck out to me as the potential ball peen on the knee. 
However, that does not equate a bad parent. I tend to think, and perhaps 
some might disagree, that I'm a pretty good parent, and yet I've had my 
moments of bad parenting. Some in the repeated areas in which I should 
have learned, but that doesn't mean I'm a bad parent. So perhaps you 
might  consider the points made, and match them to God's word on how to 
deal with such, and whatever doesn't match. Toss out. Faithful are 
the  wounds of a friend and deceitful are the kisses of an enemy.  I can't 
tell you exactly what to do, but from all you have mentioned regarding 
your son, I do feel  you would benefit making realization to you and your 
son that you are the parent with the keys to discipline and deserving 
parental respect, not he. He is a young man or becoming so, at least in 
age and physical traits, much less so in maturity and behavior I'm afraid, 
and so the respect and honor that goes with your position as parent ought 
be upheld and enforced. As well that honor and respect has a cost of 
responsibility to  not let a child rule the roost, blind mom or not. You 
are indeed, if letting him call the shots as it were, not doing him any 
good and are allowing him, that is all within your power to do ass a 
parent, allowing him to go out in the world irresponsible and ill 
prepared. Now, I will also say that each of us, child or adult has the 
choice to do as he or she wishes, and even a parent can not strong arm a 
child into something if he or she doesn't wish to do something. There are 
always around that, but, you do not have to let it happen under your own 
roof,  and to your own things yes. No, the radio ought not have you as 
possessions go, but as well it ought not have your son. the possession of 
that or desire, cause him, or allegedly or possibly caused him to steal 
it. Whatever the case, I commend you  on your concern on how you conduct 
your attitudes and conduct with respect to God's word, do not leave your 
son out of that concern. It would appear to me that he is deserving for 
prayer over the radio much more than your concern of materialism for 
yourself. If he does not comply, and you are emotionally and verbally 
abused and your possessions are stolen and he cannot be trusted, then he 
may well need to find somewhere else to live so you can carry on your 
daily walk. I do remember encouraging Kathy as well to a tough discipline, 
and I know it is hard. My son is learning lessons as well out on his own 
as he chose to do not being able to live under our rules and since has no 
driver's license due to a drunk driving arrest, no car, and will be in  an 
insurance pool. He is broke all the time despite making fair money for his 
age and little bills to take care of. I can't preach anymore, certain 
lessons they have to pay for and glean what they can on their own. In Old 
Testament days, if parents had a child who was unruly and could not be 
disciplined, they literally turned him over to the elders of the city and 
he was stoned to death. This is how much they realized proper discipline 
was necessary not only for the family but for the neighbors, neighborhood 
and city, and everyone he or she comes in contact with. for the good of 
manhood altogether really. For your sake and your sons as well, perhaps 
you need to look at your choices, and take a godly stand. Which doesn't 
always appear loving. Love is harsh sometimes and has nothing to do with 
making one feel good, which is why I think Kathy said what she said, I 
think she loves you in Christ's love and yet knew it would hurt. That's 
about as meddlesome as I want to get *smile*.

You can do it, you can take charge, if Malcome can't fly right under the 
rules, if he will not respect you as his mother and obey the rules you've 
set forth, you have no power over him and subject to continual prayer for 
a situation which you are allowing to continue under your own roof. This 
is said with the limited knowledge  I have to consider as I am not there 
obviously. You can do this thing though. And you will feel so much better 
even trying with rivaled challenges than lying down and not trying at all. 
The child submits to the parent, not  the other way around. I'll pray for 
you, for strength, for wisdom, for security who you are in your household.

Brad