Carol,
I am praying for resolution in this situation. Working with people can
sometimes be difficult at best. Keep us posted on your progress.
Huggs,
Virgie and lady Hoshi
doing business at
www.vunderwood.ktostemtech.com
----- Original Message -----
From: "Carol Pearson" <[log in to unmask]>
To: <[log in to unmask]>
Sent: Saturday, August 18, 2007 11:55 AM
Subject: WHAT'S GOING ON WITH ME?
> Hi all,
>
> I'm just writing to share a little bit of what's happening here and why
> the stress lines have been rising in the last few days. I need you to
> pray now because things are moving on and, frankly, I think this lady may
> have to be out of my life sooner rather than later!
>
> I am privileged to have some help with daily tasks that I cannot do for
> myself and the hours that I am given (in terms of money to pay for such
> help) are generous. In fact, for the first time in my life, I can
> sometimes get out and really enjoy myself and not just stick to the urgent
> jobs that must be done the next time I get some sighted help! Anyway, I
> employed two ladies for a few hours each week to help me with this earlier
> on this year. For one, who has three children, it has been a joy and no
> problem to keep her children well cared for while she is with me on a
> regular basis. For the other, who has a daughter of seven, it has been a
> real problem, not just for me but for both of us and is becoming a bit of
> a nightmare for me. Basically, this particular lady is not only needing to
> look after her daughter but is wanting all that she wants in life as well,
> and that includes squash games and trips to the gym which must fit my
> schedule. Well, I worked really hard with her in the months before the
> Summer break, as I had discovered that she was taking time out to care for
> her daughter and not finding an alternative. I made a slight alteration
> to the contract she had to sign, agreeing some flexibility in the Summer,
> but she has taken me rather for granted and not given anywhere near the
> time she should and she has persistently requested a start or end time to
> fit around her life. Well, the other person who works for me is sick
> following surgery and I'm left with no help. Having worked through the
> hours that this lady has taken from me, I have firmly concluded that this
> has to stop. She does have a father for the young girl and they live
> together, supposedly, as a happy family; and she has his sister with whom
> she apparently gets on extremely well. In addition there's an older son
> by Dad's first marriage and he comes over sometimes to be with them and
> look after the little girl when it suits them. OK, so she is not totally
> without help, though perhaps she needs more. The problem is that she's
> not taking up that help, or possibly not even asking for it, because she
> wants to be home when she wants to be home with her daughter and to still
> keep a job, on her terms.
>
> Over the past few days I have made alteration to her contract to make it
> absolutely clear what she can and cannot do if she wishes to continue to
> be employed by me. I have endeavoured to be fair and caring over the past
> many months and have given, as I say, in excess of 15 hours, plus a week's
> paid holiday whilst I was away and she has taken two weeks' off. Now,
> when you only employ a couple of people, that gets difficult and totally
> unworkable, especially as the job is to meet my needs (much more than my
> wants) and includes many things that I cannot manage myself. Anyway, I
> had to call her today because the other person will not be able to come in
> this week and she said, "Well, I'll try to make one day," when I am
> supposed to have hours on four different days by the two ladies and they
> know I hope they will cover, at least to some extent, for one another's
> sickness and holiday. I have indicated that I need some firm answer from
> her in the next day or so and also that I would like her to take a look at
> the new contract over the next few days and sign this before she goes off
> on holiday. (She's away for about eleven days). I think it is very
> likely that she will not want to sign the contract and/or that it could
> get a bit difficult all round. (I learned through a round about route
> after employing her and not receiving a reference that she took her only
> other employer to Court some years ago and lost the case because she
> clearly wanted to work her own hours and he needed full-time employment.
> It seems she is still acting in the same manner.)
>
> Anyway, I've probably given you ample to know what's going on and I just
> ask for wisdom and that God will continue to help me in all my dealings
> with her.
>
> --
> Carol
>
> -- Lies imprison; truth frees. The Son frees indeed as the light of His
> truth shines in the darkness of our lies. Jesus knows the geography of our
> souls,
> the origin of our lies, the whole path to deliverance and freedom. --
> Dwight A. Clough, Discoveries mailing list
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