Hi Phil, and Everyone,
I am still grieving over the loss of my Mom and Carolyn. I soaked my
pillow last night, as I really miss my Mom a whole lot. I miss Carolyn, also.
I guess it's good to cry now and then, and I do.
I pray and that helps a whole lot along with the Busbar I take at
night. It helps with anxiety and bad dreams.
I'm tired of feeding those night mairs. lol.
When I tell Vernon I had a night mair, he always asks me if I took my
hay to bed with me. lol.
Jesus is so wonderful, and He never fails us.
Love,
Pat Ferguson
At 06:22 PM 3/5/2007, you wrote:
>Professionals who have studied grief, report that it takes 18 months to a
>couple of years to get to the place one is able to cope with the loss of a
>loved one. I went through this with George, until his wife refused he call
>me any longer, but I went through it myself. I carried the grief for way
>more than two years and, in fact, the grief itself really came out 40 years
>later. There are grief ministries now, George and his wife went through one
>at a church they began attending, and things like that help. Grief
>counselors generally help, too. In my opinion, which isn't worth much, if
>you find a person who is always saying they passed on, or they passed away,
>you will be talking with a person who is either still experiencing the
>grief, which is normally buried pretty deep, or a person who is afraid of
>death itself for some reason. The Enemy goes into high gear on this one and
>attempts to create all types of excuses. When my mom recently died, well,
>it was, what? Four years ago? Anyhow, I went for several weeks with the
>thought that I should have done more, that is, been more involved. You
>don't know my three sisters. they run everything and I just go along for
>the ride, if, that is, I am invited at all, but that's another story. Our
>first basset hound died shortly after my mother's death. So what, you say,
>that's just a dog. Put that thought aside for the moment then if you can't
>identify with it. When we had to put our hound to sleep due to a large
>cancerous growth in his throat, see? We even call it putting the animal to
>sleep instead of saying, well, you know. Anyhow, the Holy Spirit used this
>experience to cause grief to surface about my mother. I have written a
>testimony about it that's on my website that explains what I was feeling and
>the lie it generated in me. I never would have understood it if the Lord
>had not revealed it to me. There are ways of shortening the period of
>grief. this does not imply that your feelings for that loved one goes away.
>I'm 55 years old and I still cry once and awhile about my dad who died 44
>years ago. Why? Aren't I over it? I miss him is the true answer. Missing
>someone you love is different than grief. Grief, left to itself and to the
>beguilement and deception of the Enemy will destroy your life. No, that
>doesn't mean you'll physically die but it means you will stop living. Do
>not be deceived in to believing that the Enemy will not bother you about
>something as mundane as a loved one dying. He will eat your lunch for a lot
>less of a reason than that.
>
>Phil.
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