I have to admit that when I first read this, I was so incensed, I fired 
off a scathing reply but fortunately for the sake of peace (and as a 
list mod), I was called away and so when I got back to my  , I decided 
not to send it but wait until I got home and reply then.

Well, I'm home and even upon a second read, your post still really 
pushes my buttons.  I know you're the mother of a CP child, but I must 
say your paternalistic attitude towards CP people as a whole really 
smacks of ignorance of their basic rights as human beings.  How on earth 
would you know that Ashley doesn't feel pain and humiliation at being 
treated as  a baby?  Convenience for the caregiver is all well and fine 
but what about the client?  Doesn't anyone consider them?  Hasn't anyone 
made any attempt to have her communicate via an assistive device?  I'd 
bet she'd have a lot to say if anyone would just listen!

I have a friend who was forced to go through involuntary sterilization 
just because she was classified as "slow."  The pain is still fresh in 
her mind and she still can't trust her family to do right by her.  If I 
could somehow undo the damage for her, I would.  It's unspeakable.

I would never presume to think for another person if I could help it. 

Kat

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> I had a hysterectomy and the doctor said she might take my apendix (but did  
> not)  Just to avoid it if it latter had problems... I was OK with  that.  It 
> is not something you can't live without and it may save surgery  later.
>  
> As to the hyster for the girl.  I am all for it. But the mother can do  meds 
> to stop period.  But I have been on the shot and it made me sick... so  I say 
> go with pills.  But I can understand wanting it stopped by  hysterectomy.  
> That way when the mother dies in years to come at least the  girl can't end up 
> pregant in a care home somewhere.  Which is what I worry  about with my own 
> girl... who is very pertty.   SO I REALLY worry.. no  that some sick man would 
> care if they are pertty.  Here in the US we hear  about someone being in a coma 
> or something and having a baby about every  year.... just think how many we do 
> not hear about.
>  
> Plus.... I work in a hospital and see older family members come to our  
> department with diaper soaked and all over the bed.... at least without the  period 
> it would not add to the mess.
>  
> Just my thoughts.
> kristina
>
>
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