Unfortunately in this case, our attendant is self-employed, but my friend
receives the money to pay her through a agency, and the attendant doesn't
know whether or not she should go back to this agency and report this.  But
being that we're in North Dakota and a small enough town, she knows several
social workers and law enforcement.  The positive thing was that this
morning the gal finally agreed to call the priest, I don't know him
personally, but I have a lot of respect for him, he should be able to advise
her.  

I'm sure this is something everybody on the list relates to, I know I do
personally, but due to her cerebral palsy and the physical challenges she
has to face, she feels if they have to divorce, she might not find a mate
again, making putting up with the bad treatment worthwhile.  If the priest
does nothing else, I would hope he can tell her this isn't worth it.  

Thanks, 
Anthony 
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-----Original Message-----
From: Cerebral Palsy List [mailto:[log in to unmask]] On Behalf Of
Elizabeth Thiers
Sent: Thursday, March 23, 2006 6:32 AM
To: [log in to unmask]
Subject: Re: I need some more advice

Does your attendant work for a company or on her own?  If she works for a
company, she needs to report him to her boss.  Or she needs to inform the
case manager of whoever is paying her.  Her family needs to go visit her
often, to check on how she is doing.  Your friend needs to understand that
her daughter isn't going to be taken away from her unless she stays in an
abusive relationship.  Give her that out, and then also support.  
The attendant also needs to talk to your friend and let her know what is
going on.
Very sad situation.

Beth t. the OT 

-----Original Message-----
From: Cerebral Palsy List [mailto:[log in to unmask]] On Behalf Of
Anthony Arnold
Sent: Wednesday, March 22, 2006 7:51 PM
To: [log in to unmask]
Subject: I need some more advice

Friends, 

 

I'm sure you remember my posting a couple of weeks ago concerning my friend
with cerebral palsy whose husband is verbally abusive and doesn't help her
with anything.  I'm not sure if you know that I also have the same attendant
as this gal, and this morning the attendant was at this couple's house
before coming to mine, and the attendant was told to leave or the husband is
getting a restraining order against her.  I know that I'm a very intelligent
guy, who shouldn't be asking this because I feel it's basic common sense,,
but does he have any grounds to do this action?  I have personally had this
attendant for almost 5 years, and haven't had any problems which might lead
to this action.  Sure when the daughter is home from school, the attendant
talks to her, but I don't see any problems with that especially when my
friend is right there.  

 

Thanks, 

Anthony 

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