Phil,
I am praying for all of you in this situation with Gretchen.  It is a 
difficult place for a parent to be, and sometimes you have to let them make 
their own mistakes and it sure breaks your heart.  May the Lord be 
victorious in this situation and may he bless and keep all of you until 
Gretchen is able to make the decision on own how she wants to live her life.
Huggs and blessings to all of you.
Virgie and Hoshi
----- Original Message ----- 
From: "Phil Scovell" <[log in to unmask]>
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Sent: Friday, January 27, 2006 8:26 PM
Subject: Gretchen Moving Out


> As most of you recall, I had a talk with my daughter before Christmas.  I
> told her then I was giving her to the end of December to decide how she
> wanted to live.  If she stayed in our home, she had certain rules to 
> follow.
> She has broken all the rules we had that she agreed to about four months
> ago.  We have been getting reports from others who have seen Gretchen in
> various places and places she should not have been.  She likewise has been
> meeting up with a lot of her old drug friends.  Plus, she has been getting
> stoned and claiming, when she had to miss work the next day so she could
> sleep, that she had the stomach flue.  Anyhow, she claims she will be 
> moving
> into an apartment within a block of our house, supposedly, next Friday.
> Sandy and I finally wondered, and we aren't the only ones who think this,
> that we might be in Gretchen's way, that is, of making a decision on her 
> own
> which way she is going to live.  this way, she'll have to decide on her 
> own.
> She now will have restrictions as far as seeing her children are 
> concerned.
> By that I mean, she won't be allowed to keep either of her boys with her 
> at
> her apartment for any reason because she already has taken them to places,
> and had them around people, with criminal records and who are druggies, 
> and
> the Lord only knows what else they are, in the last few weeks.  Just a 
> week
> ago, she has been over at the neighbors and they are big time dopers.
> Gretchen still smokes cigarettes and although most Christians don't think
> that's a big deal, anyone we have spoken with in drug rehab, Christian 
> drug
> rehab I mean to say, says if they won't give up the cigarettes, they will
> almost always go back to the drugs.  My friend Keith, who builds houses, 
> has
> found that one fact to be true based upon many years of hiring former
> druggies and x cons.  Gretchen told her brother that she used to spend 250
> dollars a month on smokes before she went into the drug rehab Christian
> home.  Anyhow, I haven't mentioned everything because, frankly, it is just
> another verse of a very old worn out song.  Remind me to tell you some day
> of the demonic activities around our home that seem to be more prevalent
> when Gretchen is around.  One more thing, I found out that Gretchen is
> telling everybody that we called her today and said she had to be out by
> tomorrow.  We told her Wednesday to be out by Friday.  Plus, I told her 
> two
> weeks before Christmas that she had to the end of December to make up her
> mind or I would make the decision myself.  Then a week or so ago, I 
> reminded
> her of the same thing.  Funny how we always want to blame somebody else 
> for
> things.
>
> Phil.