Well I am hoping and praying that he will at least try to get his own place that way he does not have to support others habits only his own.  Of course that means he haves to work and be responsible himself.  

--
I would rather live my life as if there is a God, and die to find out there isn't, than live my life as if there isn't, and die to find out there is

IN GOD WE TRUST
Karen Carter  '74
-KC- Ministries


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From: Kathy Du Bois <[log in to unmask]>
> Karen,
> You are right.  chris does hate authority, but what he hates more is 
> paying rent and then watching Nicki's parents gamble, smoke and drink 
> his money away.  He's paying for their fun and getting none of 
> it.  Well, I suppose he's getting some cigarettes and he's probably 
> sneaking a beer or two, but he'd rather be keeping the money for 
> himself.  Plus, he knows that those people can't be trusted.  He's 
> lost his wallet at least twice, that I know of, and perhaps more.  I 
> know that he doesn't really want to come home because he knows that 
> we have rules, but he can't stand the other either.  What a stupid choice!!
> Kathy
> 
> 
> At 02:34 PM 2/10/2006, you wrote:
> >Very good Kathy and I know it had to be hard and hurt.  But you did 
> >the right thing.  I think Chris wants to be on his own but can't 
> >because he is not quite in the right situation.  And he really does 
> >not want to come home but can't stand it where he is.  They are 
> >probably laying down some rules and his girl friend is probably 
> >bossing him.  I can tell he hates authority.  He wants the place to 
> >stay without any rules.  Well eventually he will find out no matter 
> >where you stay even by yourself, there are rules and authority.
> >
> >--
> >I would rather live my life as if there is a God, and die to find 
> >out there isn't, than live my life as if there isn't, and die to 
> >find out there is
> >
> >IN GOD WE TRUST
> >Karen Carter  '74
> >-KC- Ministries
> >
> >
> >  -------------- Original message ----------------------
> >From: Kathy Du Bois <[log in to unmask]>
> > > Well Guys,
> > >       We've heard from Chris.  Actually, we've heard from Chris twice this
> > > week.  The first time that he called was Sunday evening.  I believe
> > > that he was making sure that I was watching the super bowl.  We had a
> > > pretty good talk and I invited him to come out some time so that we
> > > could talk in person about some of the decisions that he is
> > > making.  He seemed interested in hearing what I had to say,  and
> > > definitely miserable where he is living now.  Then, I could hear
> > > Nicki, in the back ground, hollering for him and he had to go.
> > >       We had also heard from the school about Chris's latest.  Chris is
> > > still failing everything and he was offered a supportive study hall,
> > > but turned it down because, in supportive study hall, he would have
> > > to work.  In regular study hall he can do whatever he likes.  At
> > > first we were all hopeful because it looked as though he were going
> > > to take advantage of a supportive study hall to try to bring up his
> > > grades, but, alas, Thursday morning, his advisor called me to let me
> > > know that Chris had backed out and when she walked past regular study
> > > hall, where he is now, he was just sitting in the back chatting to a
> > > neighbor.  Too bad.  Anyway, I mention this phone call from school so
> > > that you will understand how we continue to know that Chris's
> > > attitude hasn't changed much so that you will understand my response
> > > to Chris the next time he called me personally on Thursday afternoon.
> > >
> > > Chris:  Hey Mom, how's it goin'?
> > > Me:  Okay Chris, how are you?
> > > Chris:  Good, good!  Hey, guess what?
> > > Me:  What?
> > > Chris:  I might be moving back in with you guys.
> > > Me:  (in shock)!  Oh, really?  Why?
> > > Chris:  Because I can't stand it here.
> > > Me:  Well, Chris, you can't just move back.
> > > Chris:  Why Not?
> > > Me:  Well, because I don't think that you've changed.  We would have
> > > to talk about this.
> > > Chris:  Talk about what?
> > > Me:  Well Chris, you can't come back home with out us talking about
> > > it first and laying some ground rules.
> > > Chris:  What?
> > > Me:  Have you changed Chris?
> > > Chris:  Gotta go Mom.  (click)
> > >
> > > that was the conversation.  We haven't heard anything since.  I can't
> > > give any analysis.  I'm just reporting the facts.  Howsever, in my
> > > opinion, it doesn't quite sound like the prodigal is ready to 
> > come home yet.
> > > Kathy