January 12 is our 21st. Yikes!! Writing that I just realized that isn't too
far off lol. It is amazing how prayer is answered, and for me, I wasn't
even a bonafide child of his when I prayed. Kind of like a foster child
disobeying.
Brad
At 10:04 PM 1/1/2006 -0500, you wrote:
>Been there, this close.... to ending my marriage!!!! Ben too left after one
>of those "I can hurl more insults than you" fights, intending to get a
>hotel room near his work, but there was no room for him, not anywhere, so...
>he came home. Not that he wanted to, but where else could he go? I too
>prayed one of those desperation prayers "God, I've tried all in my power to
>hold it together, I am so tired, I have no energy left, I've looked for a
>way out that you would approve, and can't seem to find one, so do something
>so I can stand it, cause things to get better, or let Ben leave. I can't
>keep on going on like this. I am at the end of all I know, and I need an
>answer.
>
>Well, guess you guys can guess the answer, I am still here, and January 26th
>is our anniversary 21 years! "Thank You God for intervening when I had no
>more strength nor answers, thank You for those who encouraged me to stay,
>when that wasn't the answer I wanted to hear, Thank You for your answer
>forBrad and his wife, You are truly the repairer of broken dreams, broken
>hearts,
>
>Rhonda and a giver of hope when all seems to be lost for ever.
>
>
>
>-----Original Message-----
>From: Echurch-USA The Electronic Church
>[mailto:[log in to unmask]] On Behalf Of MV
>Sent: Sunday, January 01, 2006 9:02 PM
>To: [log in to unmask]
>Subject: Re: when someone you love is depressed!
>
>What. You are a glutton for babble punishment? lol. Well in short, it was I
>think in May of 1996. My wife and I were this far *pinching fingers within
>a hair's width away*, from calling it quits. As a CEO Christian, Christmas
>and Easter Only *smile*, not born again, not ever having looked at God as
>anything other than a lightening bolt bully which had no real purpose in
>daily life but rather a point of focus in church I ought to attend to be a
>good guy, which was filled with a bunch of hypocritical fakes, I remember
>half way down my steps to my office in the basement my will broke and I
>stopped and began praying to God saying "God? I'm tired of fighting for
>this marriage. I just simply cannot and will not do it anymore. So
>please, either give me the strength to just tell her and let me go my own
>way, or the strength to get this thing back where it belongs. Either way I
>can't stay as it is anymore." Soon after that we had another blow out, you
>know, one of those normal garden variety fist clenching, rage building
>refrigerator punching disagreements? lol. She then packed up her bags and
>was headed for a hotel. Evidently God had a different plan because as he'd
>have it, there wasn't a room in this town or the nearest one either. Not a
>one room. She came back and said basically she felt it was a sign we ought
>try to work things out, give it another go, a real try this time. Of course
>with all the damage that had been caused in words to each other and etc.
>we both knew it wasn't just going to be come out from the corners and shake
>hands. We decided to go to church that Sunday, so riding around Sunday
>morning going "Eenie meenie, mie-nee mo" we happened along a Methodist
>Church, only due to the fact that we were running out of time and if we
>kept riding much longer, we'd have missed every service in town. Wouldn't
>you know the preacher there was talking about marriage? Funny isn't it?
>Well. The next week or so we attended a church a friend of my wife
>attended. In fact this woman was part of the ministry there. Her and her
>husband were children's ministers, who later started their own church in
>which I helped with praise and worship, and who are the same couple that
>unfortunately divorced after various issues. That is a sad story but
>anyway. So we attended this church. This was a tongue talking Holy Spirit
>walking jump in the isles when you sing kind of church. Wow! I thought
>hmmm. That kind of church was not unfamiliar to me as my wife and her
>family attended a similar one in Marinette years back and I'd attend just
>so I'd get an extra day with my sweetie as it didn't count against the
>three she was limited to spending with me per week then. lol. Shifty
>character eh? Anyway at this church there was due to be a drama ministry
>called... hmmm. what was it called? lol. Stopping to think here, grab a
>coffee and I'll have it when you return. Hmmm. The same drama wrapped under
>a different name the year before was "Glory In The Fire", they change the
>name every year and I keep thinking it was something like Scared Straight
>lol. Although that was a movie about drugs when I was in school years
>back, the idea was the same. OK. I admit I had to ask my daughter the name,
>the drama was called "Final Destiny". Basically had several drama scenes
>depicting varying real life situations from a garden variety mom who didn't
>accept Christ to a drug deal gone bad with teens, to born again Christians
>who were called home in an auto accident or something. Basically showing if
>you aren't right with God? You is BBQ and if you are? You is alright. It
>was done exquisitely. At the end they of course have an alter call. I've
>been to churches who had alter calls before then and I've never had a
>problem standing there with both feet flat to the floor and dry palms. This
>time? This time was different. When they had the alter call, and I knew one
>was likely to be coming, I felt convicted, I felt torn inside. As I stood
>there people moved to the front, and I had no concern for anything else
>going on around me. I heard the man say something to the affect of... "I
>know God is tugging at a few of you who are suppose to be up here but you
>are standing there with sweaty palms". My God! I felt he was talking
>directly to me, I believe my wife was to my left and two kids to the right.
>I did not grab my wife's hand to come up with me, I just began walking out
>to the right, my wife followed and so did my two kids and the lot of us
>gave our lives to Christ right then. Well my wife rededicated her life as
>in high school she attended a teen event and accepted Christ. But myself
>and both my kids accepted Christ at that time and our lives began to change
>big time. We still had some struggles but there was an underlying peace and
>sureness and we all began to grow. So that's about the size of it.
>
>Brad
Brad
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